I hope you enjoyed the holiday season and are welcoming the new year with joy! I had a wonderful time, but I also found myself feeling drained from all the events, parties, late nights, and indulgent foods. Eventually, it caught up with me, and Norovirus forced me to take a couple of days to rest. During that time, I asked my guides for assistance, and they led me through an energy session where I visualized healing energy circulating through my body, strengthening my immune system.
Our bodies face many challenges daily—stress, EMFs, pollutants, poor-quality food, emotional strain, and more. It’s no wonder we feel depleted. All these factors can leave our immune systems vulnerable.
To support your body through these challenges, here are a few simple ways to recharge:

🌱Take 3 deep, mindful breaths
🌱Hydrate with a glass of water
🌱Spend 5 minutes meditating to centre yourself
🌱Go for a 15 minute walk in nature
🌱Prepare a nourishing meal with wholesome, organic foods

We are not machines! We are complex biological, spiritual, emotional, physical & mental beings yet conventional medicine tends to not only isolate one of these such as physical, they also isolate each organ & system, as if we are merely a machine with separate parts to be "fixed".

We are so much more than this. Any issue that we have will change most other systems in our bodies. For example, when we have an emotional issue it affects every cell in our bodies, it changes our hormones, it affects the gut microbiome, how much fat our body will lay down to protect us, our mindset, our subconscious mind goes on high alert & is more active than usual to protect us. An emotional issue isn't just an emotional issue.

We do ourselves a disservice when we label something as purely emotional, or purely physical.

We are living in an age of extremism that doesn't serve us. It's either black or it's white, not shades of grey in between. Be careful falling into the trap of thinking everything is spiritual or emotional & never physically about your lifestyle choices & your environment!

Just as a pain killer can allow you to get the essential sleep that you need to be able to heal when you have a headache for example, so too energy healings can clear the way, soothe your reactions, relax you to be able to access your own innate healing within. With my psychic gift I also give essential clues as to what is really behind how you're feeling in your body.

All it takes is for you to be open & ready to receive the healing.

That might sound like a given, but sometimes we hold onto our pain because it serves us in some kind of a way. Perhaps you have a hard time receiving from others, being taken care of by others? This trait often renders people unwilling to accept healing energy, even when you really believe you want to receive it, there is a lock there. But fear not! I feel those blocks & I ask for their release so that I can get in deep!

At my partners family events we used to play this game: try to get his sister to ask how you are. This game started long before I joined in. The empaths in the family would try to get the narcissist to have a 2 way conversation. Each empath would try, but she would never ask about the other person. In that family dynamic my partner, his mum, his brother & I were the empaths. His father and sister were narcissists. When there was a shared humour between us empaths it was easier not to take their behaviour personally. We were there for each other, to validate each other's experiences, she really didn't ever ask about anyone else, it was all about her.

I grew up in a different dynamic. I was the only empath amongst narcissists. There was no safety & certainly no humour to be found. Within the dynamic it was very difficult to ascertain my own reality when I was being told that I'm too sensitive, "that didn't hurt", words don't hurt people, that it could be worse, that they are good people & other people are worse. The few times I went away on school trips, without my brother being there, there was a slight reprieve, I would always cry when I returned home not really understanding my tears or my feelings of not wanting to be there. It was only once I lived outside of the family home at university with other people that I realised it wasn't true, other people weren't worse than them. I had a taste of kind hearted, generous, loving people & so began piecing myself back together again.

Unfortunately I didn't take it one step further & disconnect completely from my family. I can look back wishing I had, but this was back in the 1980's, there were no narciccistic abuse books, YouTube channels or even therapists who could help. I was one, amongst many, who had to heal ourselves with whatever help we could get. I wish I knew back then that healing is only possible with no contact.
I understood eventually, that I could not be present, could not be fully functional, could not be there for other people, while I was under constant attack. With great guilt & shame I disconnected & I began the real work of healing.

I picked myself up, I faced my feelings, feelings that I had been told, didn't matter, I had even had it screamed in my face "I don't fucking care how you feel!" I realised that my feelings did matter, and that it was ok to feel them, that I was human to feel them. The dehumanised part of me, that allowed me to be victim to the constant bullying, belittlement, gaslighting, devaluation, she was loved by me, until she realised she actually wasn't the problem after all.

Many years into this healing I quit drinking alcohol, the substance that I had used to take the edge off the constant social anxiety and other feelings that were just too hard back then to fully feel. I found Muay Thai kickboxing which made me feel powerful, strong, able to handle myself in any situation. I became someone who cannot be bullied anymore. I became very strong, strong enough to confront others when I see bad behaviour, strong enough to stand up for other people being bullied, strong enough to call people out when they are being cruel. 

It's amazing how the bullies & narcissists flee once you are strong. Their fragile sense of ego, that has to make them right, that has to make it all about them, it cannot handle someone who might tell the truth, who might stand up to them. This is intolerable to their ego, they must remain in control by avoidance.

Their avoidance is good for me too. I know that I deserve to have good people in my life, who do fucking care about how I feel, who even ask me in healthy 2 way conversations how I feel, without it having to be a game to coax it out of them. I choose people who have empathetic hearts, who are open, who can talk about things openly to solve problems when they come up. I choose people who are able to love & who offer love in relationships, any kind of relationships. I now notice the signs, more quickly than ever, of narcissistic traits.

Nobody has the right to bully me or abuse me. Nobody. It doesn't matter how much DNA we share. Nobody has the right to abuse me. Nobody.

Empathy involves being attuned to and sharing another person's feelings, experiences, and emotions. For empaths, this comes so naturally that it's difficult for them to imagine life without it. However, some people simply lack this ability. Estimates suggest that anywhere from 5% to as many as 1 in 6 people in the world may have little to no empathy.

So lack of empathy means being unaware of & unable to share another person's feelings, experiences & emotions. It stands to reason that conflict resolution is going to be very tricky with this kind of a person if it's possible at all.
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It's crucial for empaths to recognize signs of a lack of empathy in others and adjust their approach to conflict resolution accordingly. While you may initially try to resolve the issue in the usual way, even persisting despite the non-empath's resistance, there comes a point where you must accept that internal resolution is enough. Some conflicts simply can't be resolved with someone who lacks empathy, because the problem isn't yours to fix.