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Let go because what is yours will never go past you

31/3/2019

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Change! Don't you just love it?

No?
Me neither!

Change is unsettling, it makes us feel vulnerable, it takes us out of our comfort zones, it puts our mind on high alert & it starts to convince us that the sky is falling, we will surely die!

Last week's weekly guidance video said it would be a week of letting go & wow was it that for me!

I have let go of business systems, of my old website, of my old email list (thanks & bye!), I've let go of services, of some of my old blogs,...

It all had to go so that I could be true to who I am now.

As I read through my old blog posts I realised just how much I have changed over the years. I am empowered now. I am less crystals & soothing, more c'mon let's do this! I'm am less ouch let's heal that, more let's get on making our dreams come true!

I'm freaking out inside, my stress levels are up, I feel vulnerable, but I am moving forward, one step at a time, because there is this spark inside of me that knows that this is the right thing to do.

What is mine won't ever go past me, so it's ok to let go & start again. I know that to be true. I can trust in that. In fact letting go of old energy is the best thing to do to allow the changes that you really want to rush in to meet you.

So this is it! Onward & upward!

​What is yours won't ever go past you either, so what can you let go of today to allow the changes you really want to come rushing in?

​Speak out & commit to it in the comments below, let us be there for you!

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I'm Claire Louise Hay, I help you claim your true power to manifest the life of your dreams through self-awareness and alignment with your higher self.

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How to love & care without being codependent & enabling

1/3/2019

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Compassionate souls have a desire to love & care for everybody, especially those who aren't looking after themselves. But these same compassionate souls have hard lesson after hard lesson while they do this, until they learn the difference between enabling & the loving care that actually benefits the recipient.

In the 1980's food aid was sent into Africa to help feed those who were struggling to feed themselves. It had an unintended negative consequence. Free food was dropped into communities. These communities were used to growing their own food, but once they had a supply of free food they stopped planting their crops, they stopped tending to the land, they didn't need to anymore, food was being brought to them. So when the free food ran out, they were left in a worse position than before. They had to start again with even less resources than they had before.

There are numerous examples that show us that doing things for other people, rather than empowering them to do it for themselves, has disasterous consequences. It's easy to see these things on the bigger scale, for the obvious examples, but what about when we look at the smaller scale, who we are loving & caring for around us?

​Is it loving & caring to give a man free fish or to teach him to fish for himself?

​Is it loving & caring to always tie your child's shoelaces or to teach them to do it for themselves?

Is it loving & caring to get an addict their drug of choice or to help them to recover from it?

Is it loving & caring to clean up someone's mess (house, life, relationships,...) or let them suffer their own consequences?

The loving & caring thing is often unclear. We try to help sometimes, but what we are actually doing is enabling others not to learn to care for themselves, we are being codependent.

I've been doing what I do professionally for 19 years now & it took me quite a few years more than I'd care to admit to, to realise that I can't help people who don't help themselves. That is: if someone isn't seeking the help & isn't willing to invest in themselves to get that help, then if I try to help it never helps them.

Loving & caring for those who don't do love & care for themselves always backfires. The love & care can't be received, they are like endless drains never able to be filled because we cannot be any one else's source. Their source is within themselves, their own connection with the true source.

Take a look around you. Who are you loving & caring for? Who drains you? Who uplifts you? Who are you constantly trying to fix because they seem such a mess?

The loving & caring thing to do is to allow them to find their own power within them, for them to actually feel the consequences of their not looking after themselves so that they have the motivation to do it for themselves. This often means people have to hit rock bottom before they will bounce back, but we have all been there & bounce back we do!

Are there parts of your life where you are not loving & caring for yourself? Because just as we can enable others who aren't caring for themselves, we can also be the ones who aren't loving & caring for ourselves & wanting others to do that for us. It could be your health, or your relationships, or your finances, or addictions,... 
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When you start to love & care for yourself, you open the door to other people who are loving & caring for themselves, who can also love & care for you too, to come in. When loving & caring people love & care for each other it's a win win situation. It uplifts everyone & disempowers no-one.

Which brings me to how you can love & care for others & have a positive effect. Loving & caring for those who are loving & caring for themselves. They are taking responsibility. You are taking responsibility. Neither you nor them NEED care from others, but they want it. This care can be received because they are already receiving the care from themselves. The love is uplifting for everyone because it's reciprocated. It's magical. It never depletes. It is the only true giving. It can only be given by those loving & caring for themselves first.

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​I'm Claire Louise Hay, I help you claim your true power to manifest the life of your dreams through self-awareness and alignment with your higher self.

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