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Why Trying To Love Unconditionally Backfires

28/6/2018

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I have talked to thousands of higher selves in my readings & this subject comes up again & again. It comes up a lot for women, but it also comes up in men's readings too.

I'm talking about trying to unconditionally love turning into unwanted & even painful experiences.

Unconditional love isn't ...

... tolerating
... being a doormat
... people pleasing
... putting other people's feelings/desires/needs first
... being loving to people who aren't being loving

All of the above behaviour is pandering to other people's egos. It's trying to please the un-alignment in others. It's trading your self-love for their ego. It's not really loving them at all & it definitely isn't loving you.

​In an ideal world we would all love everyone else unconditionally. But this can only be done when you love yourself unconditionally first - show me one person on this planet who can do this!

​Conditionally love your way to self love

So when you think "This person loves me so I should love them" & you feel bad, because you don't actually like them & they hurt you & your heart is telling you that it doesn't love them. Listen to your hearts truth. Love yourself instead.

​When you think "I'm going to love this (unlovable) person until I get back the love that I want" & you feel bad, you never feel enough, you don't receive the love back from them & your heart is telling you to walk away. Listen to your hearts truth. Love yourself instead.

When you think "If I give this person what they want, if I focus on their needs & meet them, they will be happy & then someone will make me happy too" & you feel bad, you feel resentful, you feel unappreciated, you feel empty, you feel like nobody is giving you what you need & your heart says stop. Listen to your hearts truth. Love yourself instead.

When you think "If I love this person enough they will heal/stop their abusive behaviour/change" & you feel bad, you get hurt, you get abused, you get blamed & your heart says run a mile! Listen to your hearts truth. Love yourself instead.

Unconditional love is ...

... loving despite conditions

... not trying to change anyone so that you can feel better

... being discerning

... loving their essence, not their ego

It's hard enough to learn how to do this for ourselves, never mind to do it for someone else. So this is why trying to unconditionally love before you unconditionally love yourself backfires, it's actually all ego based, not heart based at all. To be heart based requires you to learn to listen to your heart & love yourself first.
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​I'm Claire Louise Hay, I help you claim your true power to manifest the life of your dreams through self-awareness and alignment with your higher self.

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How To Let Go To Make Space For Better

25/6/2018

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Our lives are full, our houses are full & worst of all, our heads are full.

We have so much in our lives that doesn't serve us, that doesn't allow us to get what we really want. The further down the freedom/joy/instant manifestation rabbit hole I go, the more I know that the process never changes no matter what level you're at.

​So you can let go of that thought right now, you know the one that says "It will be easy when..." as if something magical will happen when you've reached that next goal, or when you've reached that new inner place, or when you've got that money, or that partner, or whatever.

It's not. Life carries on in the exact same way. The great news is that we get rewarded with an even better life every step of the way. But we also have to go through the same steps to get there & the next there.

Those steps are letting go, letting go of our beliefs, letting go of our patterns, letting go of the people, places, jobs, habits,... that hold us back from freedom. In fact that IS the only step, because once you have let go the universe will naturally & automatically fill up the space that you have made with better, with what you want, because it knows what you want already. It's listened to you every single day of your life & it's listening to you right now.

​What do you need to let go of? Sometimes it's obvious, it's that thing you keep thinking about that makes you feel terrible. Sometimes it's not so obvious, those patterns that you learned as a child that seem normal, seem a part of you, because everyone else around you does it too, you don't even know you have it to let go of it, they are the tricky ones.

And how do you let go of it? Sometimes you just have to say no, sometimes you have to distract yourself from thinking the same things & sometimes you need help to let go.

​The great news is that your higher self will always help you. To plug in meditate & listen. The answers come & they are simple, so simple that most ignore them & don't take action on them. Or you can get a reading to use someone else's gift of connection to find out.

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​I'm Claire Louise Hay, I help you claim your true power to manifest the life of your dreams through self-awareness and alignment with your higher self.

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Alignment vs Astrology

18/6/2018

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I've always been into astrology & I give a weekly forecast, not from astrology, but from my guides, which almost always lines up with what the astrologers are saying anyway. We are all picking up on the collective energies at play.

But what I've found lately is that the more aligned with my higher self I get, the less astrology seems to apply to my experiences. That's to say. the more I am tuned in to my higher self, thinking along the same lines as it does, feeling great, following my intuition from it, manifesting great things, aligned,... the less my experience is matching what the astrologers are saying.

General weekly forecasts are great, they are helpful to so many people & I hope mine helps you out. I know through the law of attraction only those who it applies to will be attracted to watch it, but I know from my personal readings, especially my week ahead readings for my clients, that the energies for the week can be very different for the individual, dependent on their alignment. So advice for one person would be absolutely wrong for another & vice versa.

For example, 2 people both trying to attract more abundance into their lives, one's higher self tells them to give more, to be of service, to reach out to help others, the other tells them to put themselves first, to stop giving so much away, to expect more for themselves. Both would receive that specific advice on the week that the general advice would be to focus on abundance & releasing the blocks to it.

Alignment is being connected with your higher self, so that you can get the specific guidance that is right for you, because generic guidance often takes you into more imbalance. It's about being more self-aware so that you can create the life that you really want co-creating with the universe.

So when the stars say it's going to be a hard week, my alignment proves to me that it isn't hard at all & it needn't be hard.

​You, too, can have this self-awareness & alignment so that you're not knocked around by the energies, but instead use them to your advantage.

Make this the year that you will claim your true power to manifest the life of your dreams through self-awareness and alignment with your higher self.

Your higher self will lead you on the path to whatever you want in life, the more you are self-aware & in alignment you are, the more your life will move quickly toward everything that you want.

Every week you will receive a reading via email detailing your personal energies for the week, what your lessons will be around, what your focus should be on for your highest good & any more guidance that your higher self wants you to know this week.

For example, take a look at Laura's week ahead reading below.
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​I'm Claire Louise Hay, I help you claim your true power to manifest the life of your dreams through self-awareness and alignment with your higher self.

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