 I used to think it was my duty to sacrifice myself for others. I used to think I was a good person for trying to help anyone I saw in need of help, whether they asked for it or not. I used to think I gained some kind of credit for giving up my energy, my wishes, my well-being, my time, to give others what they wanted. At one point I was doing it in my business too, I was giving all of myself, constantly every day & getting so little in return. It was exhausting & I used to think it was other people's problem. I had believed the rhetoric that if you just give, give & then give some more then it will come back to you, eventually. But then it never did. What did happen was that I burned out & I became resentful that I was giving it all without getting what I needed, never mind what I wanted. I learned that this kind of giving is in fact judgment of others. So imagine someone coming up to you & telling you that something in your life, that you love, that you enjoy, is actually a problem & they have come to fix it! You know how that would feel right? Hmm, actually, this isn't a problem, I love it. Or maybe you would believe them & allow them to "help" you? I know I have done both in the past. But I have also been this person perceiving problems where there really aren't any. Trying to help when really I am judging what I see in others as a problem when it isn't, or if it is, that's for them to decide & to find their solution in connection with their higher self. The thing is when we are in alignment, when we are focused on our life & creating what we want in our lives to make ourselves feel good, then we end up being of true service to others, not by looking at them & deciding they have a problem, but by doing what makes us feel great. For example, I love doing the weight loss coaching, but I'm not going up to people who I think are fat & asking them do they want it? Ha ha, I am just putting it out there for those that do & having a great time teaching them & helping them when they ask for it, no judgment involved. I love giving readings, but I'm not going out looking for people with problems to ask them do they want a reading on it (I so used to do that!) I just offer the service for those who want it. I love doing the management for my friend at the Muay Thai gym here, it is so much fun, but it wasn't because I thought he had a problem with it. However, in the last few days I have found myself seeing problems in my close relationships & wanting to help. Just after I shot the week ahead reading I realised that I was doing it again! You see, everything should be a win win situation. You don't need to give up anything for anyone else. Martyrdom isn't cool it's really annoying to everyone including the martyr! When you are in true alignment, doing what makes you feel great, you will want to do things that help others, not because you have noticed there is a problem with them, but because it feels so much fun to do it. Take a look at what you are doing that doesn't feel good. Why are you doing it? What is the problem that you have perceived that needs to be fixed by you doing this? Isn't that a judgment? Could you allow yourself to just do what you love? Let us know in the comments!  The only thing stopping you from instantly manifesting anything you want is not being in alignment with it, or in other words, a block to it. A block is a resistance to, or a contradiction to, what you really want.
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 Abundance is a vibration. It's not just money, it's not just wealth, it's infinite plenty of everything for everybody. And it is available to everybody who has the abundance vibration. I was invited to a celebration a few nights ago & came home in a very high vibration of love & plenty. I listened to a meditation before I fell to sleep & it made me realise that UNLIMITED abundance is available to me. I woke up with this same high vibration, woke up happy & feeling so abundant. So I raised it even further by focusing my thoughts on unlimited abundance & the abundant day ahead of me. I expected to see abundance & abundance is what I was shown. Something that particularly stood out to me was as I rode home from the gym, I turned a corner & about 100 white butterflies all took flight as they saw me come around the corner, so all of a sudden I was surrounded by an abundance of white butterflies. I loved the bigger influx of readings that came in from customers too! Thank you! So how can you get into the abundance vibration? 1. Open your mind to perceive expanding abundance. Abundance is all around us, it literally IS the way the universe provides us with what we need. But you will only experience what you can perceive. It's like the glass half full or half empty thing. Some people will experience the exact same conditions, but one will perceive it as abundance & another as lack. The one who perceives it as abundance will attract more & more examples of abundance for them to perceive. The one who perceives it as lack will attract more & more lack. 2. Ask to receive more abundance. Ask to be shown it. Look out for it. Notice it when it comes. Perceive it. Don't put limitations on it. Ask to be shown unlimited abundance. Be open to more & more coming YOUR way. Be open to every kind of abundance. Abundance of money. Abundance of butterflies. Abundance of fun. Abundance of friends. Abundance of invitations. Abundance of cat videos. Abundance of smiles. Abundance of love. Don't ask for the particular abundance that you are particularly resistant to & therefore struggling with, ask for it all, abundance in general. 3. Expect it to come. Be ready for it. Know that it's around every corner. Say yes to every single example of abundance that you are shown. Recognise it as abundance. Even if it's not the kind of abundance you are struggling with yet, know that as you recognise it as abundance & say yes to it as abundance & appreciate that the universe is showing you that abundance is there for you so that it can grow. Expect to see hundreds of butterflies. Expect to find pennies on the street. Expect to be given gifts. Expect a raise. Expect people to contact you who want to give to you. Expect more clients. 4. Abundance loves love! Be love as much as you can, feel it, accept love from others. Wake up every morning & remind yourself that abundance is everywhere, to set your day up to expect it & to look for it. At the end of the day (or throughout the day) write down all of the examples of abundance that you witnessed & received that day. Focus on abundance & see just how much it grows in your life. Then come back here & tell us what you manifested!  The only thing stopping you from instantly manifesting anything you want is not being in alignment with it, or in other words, a block to it. A block is a resistance to, or a contradiction to, what you really want.
What is your biggest block? How can you release it? Your higher self knows the easiest path to releasing your greatest resistance & can lead you step by step to breaking free of it. Click here to book your biggest block reading today!  Introducing Holly Signorelli, customer of around 5 years, who has recently published her book The Secret to Wealth: How to change your money story & claim the abundance that is rightfully yours! I read it a few months ago & let the lessons in it play themselves out in my own life. I want to share this book & her wonderful perspective with you all in this interview. Enjoy! Hi Holly, firstly thank you for writing this book. Money seems to be a big problem for so many people, it seems to be a very difficult subject to master for many people so I appreciate everyone who is sharing their money wisdom to help us all to get in alignment with this wonderful resource that is money. I especially loved your practical & spiritual approach mix, it spoke to me being a very practical spiritual person myself! What inspired you to write the book in this way? My first book was created to show people how to manage their money, during the 2008 saga with the banks and so many people losing their house and jobs. This time I really wanted to inspire people in a very different way, so I wrote the book as if I was talking to my best friend. I had so many downloads in this book and sometimes didn’t even remember writing them! Most of all money is such a big issue globally and I’ve found that about 90% of the population has money issues, even if they have a lot of money. Most people don’t understand that money is a vibration just like anything else. And how you talk about money and feel about it, is what you will get out of it. You sent me a copy of the book when I was in the process of falling in love & I didn’t get a chance to read it until I had just committed myself to being in that relationship. It was very interesting timing for me, because my finances had just taken a downward turn, which has always happened to me throughout my life whenever I get into a relationship, I can literally go from a great monthly income to $0. So when I read “I’ve never seen a client fall deeply in love without it affecting their bank accounts on a great level.” that chapter stopped me in my tracks & made me question this pattern that I had going on. To me that was the most impactful chapter of your book & a few months later things have turned around for me as I’ve become settled in the relationship. I, like you, had been picking the wrong men, the men who hadn’t been able to love me properly or support me either & it affected my income drastically. My relationship is very different this time. Can you share a little of your relationship/money journey with us here & about how love changes everything? Oh yes! I’ve always been able to make a good living, but in my late 20’s and early 30’s I was in long relationships with very wealthy men. I still always paid my own bills, but they would pay for any trips or going out to eat. After six years of being together in one relationship, I started to really get bigger money with my career, and that’s when he dumped me out of know where! The person that he left me for didn’t really make much money, and I realized that he wanted to be in control of the relationship. This is something I see a lot, where the husband makes the income and gives the wife a small amount of money to be in control. Fortunately, the millennials are changing that. Our kids are 24-25 and with their relationships they both pay or take turns. I love that! The chapter on how guilt & fear hold you back resonated me on a deep level too, because most of my work is in helping people to release the fear & guilt that holds them back from everything they want in life, not just the money. I found in myself that I was very judgmental of myself around money, so I was making myself feel guilty for not doing as well as my harsh inner parent thought I should be! And the guilt was the very thing keeping me from what I really wanted. It seems to be a never ending process, uncovering new fears, old guilts, & releasing them to move to the next financial or success level. Have you found that personally? Yes, I think we all of these moments where we judge, but I’ve really gotten better about that. I know that when I judge someone, that I have done it as well, even if it was in the past. We are all working through the planet and we all have made mistakes. I do think that guilt is the worst one, because it keeps you from moving forward. Forgiveness is the key here, especially with the new energies now. I loved the way you were so blunt in the feeling of lack chapter lol, lack causes overspending, you are so right! I’ve seen in my clients that a lack perspective causes behaviour that turns away what people really want, from being with the wrong kind of partner to blatantly saying no to what they really want even when it is offered right to them. I can look back in my business & see where I had turned away from what was working, or even just stopped doing something that was working, because of this lack perspective. It took me many years to stop emotionally reacting to the regular downturns in business & even now I have to work at this, at not reacting to lack, not letting it take over my consciousness. What do you do to emotionally ride out those income waves? I see this a lot in my company as a CPA. When a person feels like there isn’t enough money, they will (not realizing) buy something they really want because they believe that there is no other way. Honestly I’ve done that myself in the past, and had to work through that as well. I have a certification of the Archetypes of money and on my profile I’m a Maverick. This is typically someone that takes big risks. So two times in my life, I’ve done that and created big losses. I had to work through that as well. Mavericks can get big gains and also big losses, so now I’m careful about those opportunities. I'm a maverick too, I totally understand. Frustration has never been a huge problem for me, I value my freedom above everything so I never work too hard anymore, I tend to laziness more than overwork, however, disappointment is the emotion that takes me over when I’m not paying attention. It’s amazing how much that feeling manifests in more disappointing things fast! I have to convince myself to be satisfied with my current financial situation instead. What is the emotion that you reach for with your finances? I can definitely understand that. In 2016 I sold my company to change my model, and I misread part of the contract. The people that bought it were not like me, they weren’t personable and I only got half of what I was supposed to get. When that happened I fully surrendered to my higher self and I started to get ideas and ways to get the clients I really wanted. 2016 was a hard year, but the next year I had the company that I really wanted, I went virtually and have more staff. This last year, I really had standards with my company and my profit ratio was almost 70%. My clients are super happy because they are being taken care of. You wrote about judgement, which is such a window of opportunity for self-awareness. We judge in others what we judge in ourselves, so this can be very eye opening when it comes to finances. I’ve judged people for being irresponsible with their money, when I’ve been doing the exact same thing! I see a lot of people judging the rich for hoarding, or not spending in the right way, or for not giving in the right way. I don’t have this judgment myself, I see the great things that rich people are doing in the world & I appreciate what they have done for the world to receive the wealth they have. What is a common judgement that you witness that holds money away from your clients? One of the Archetypes is the accumulator. This is someone who has money but doesn’t think they have enough. They leave it in the bank and don’t enjoy using it for fun. I’ve had to let go of clients that are like this because they will always pay late, or try to negotiate. I don’t charge people more if they have more money, so it’s not fair for the other clients. So yes, I do feel sometimes a judgement, but I go back to the fact that all of us make bad money decision, including me! On the other side you have the Celebrity, which is the spender. Those enjoy all of the clothes, cars and other things that make them feel alive! It great to have things but it’s best to have money in the bank. Money is really about balance. Balance yes! Off that money rollercoaster & finding balance. The easiest business to do is the one that is fun & you love, isn’t it? I’ve recently started helping my partner out in his business, I love his business, I use his business every day for fun, it is pure fun for me to do the marketing for it, & because it’s so much fun to do it & to work with him on it, the business is sky rocketing. I love my business, but his, wow, it’s literally play every day, that’s all we do, play, play with people who come along. My own business is fun too, I get to play with higher selves, I get the fun of the serendipity that brings people to my services. There’s this belief that seriousness is how business is done, you know, men in grey suits, serious faces, no fun to be had here, but it goes against the way the universe works. What’s fun about your business for you? When I went virtual, it was the best! No more being in traffic, and if I’m done at 2 I’m done for the day. I think more and more people are going online for that reason. Also the people that I hire have flex hours and they are all very good at what they do. When you hire the right employees and allow flex hours then your staff will do anything for you. Also they don’t need 40 hours, they decide how many hours they want, and I give them work based on that. In fact right now I’m in the Dominican Republic and the girls are taking care of the clients for me. I loved your chapter on receiving. Receiving has been one of my life’s biggest challenges. I didn’t feel safe to receive. It was actually easier for me to receive pain, abuse or negativity than it was to receive love, money or appreciation. But I persisted in pursuing being able to receive, now I love receiving. I know many of my clients have found it difficult to open up to receiving too. Do you have any advice for them? Especially with money, receiving it is the key. The energies on the planet are different now, and the way to receive money is to realize that money is available to everyone, and it is a vibration. Nowadays you have to lock into the reality that you are a strong and powerful being, and that (just like Abraham-Hicks says) you always get what you want, if you really believe that you receive. It’s the resistance that keeps us from it. Also, always talk about money as if you already have it. I do this all the time, not just for money but also opportunities in life. That is great advice, thank you. Another thing I have noticed is that what we complain about instead of appreciate tends to stay out of our experience, so stopping the complaining about money & not having enough of it, but appreciating what we do have instead really makes a big difference fast! One thing I have recently discovered is the importance of the feeling of desire. So many people don’t even allow themselves to feel the desire for lots of money, maybe they have been convinced that it’s evil, or that they shouldn’t desire it, I even see a lot of memes on Facebook that affirm these beliefs that money itself or wanting it is somehow wrong. Yet, I know that the universe gives us what we desire & we have to really feel that desire for it. There’s so many great things we can do with money & if nothing else, less stress from not having enough money should be a good reason for anyone to desire more of it! Have you ever struggled with feeling the desire for money? I was very lucky to be born into a family that never had money issues. We had only one income, and we had 4 kids and 44 foster kids! We were not wealthy but we had everything that we needed. I worked since I was 14 because I wanted designer jeans that my parents couldn’t afford, and I felt empowered that I was able to create my own money. That’s why I want to change the way that people thank about money, to enjoy it, to give, to save, to live, to travel. We did not come here to be stagnant. We came here to create, and we have all the tools inside of us. So just know that you are a Sorceress and it is your birthright to create anything you want, including money! Perfect words, yes we came to create! It's what higher selves say all the time. Thank you so much for taking the time for this chat. Where can we find a copy of your book? My book is available by clicking here & you can get 25% off until 1st July 2019 by using the coupon code "mindset25"  I'm Claire Louise Hay, I help you claim your true power to manifest the life of your dreams through self-awareness and alignment with your higher self.
Want to work with me? Click here to find out how!  Compassionate souls have a desire to love & care for everybody, especially those who aren't looking after themselves. But these same compassionate souls have hard lesson after hard lesson while they do this, until they learn the difference between enabling & the loving care that actually benefits the recipient. In the 1980's food aid was sent into Africa to help feed those who were struggling to feed themselves. It had an unintended negative consequence. Free food was dropped into communities. These communities were used to growing their own food, but once they had a supply of free food they stopped planting their crops, they stopped tending to the land, they didn't need to anymore, food was being brought to them. So when the free food ran out, they were left in a worse position than before. They had to start again with even less resources than they had before. There are numerous examples that show us that doing things for other people, rather than empowering them to do it for themselves, has disasterous consequences. It's easy to see these things on the bigger scale, for the obvious examples, but what about when we look at the smaller scale, who we are loving & caring for around us? Is it loving & caring to give a man free fish or to teach him to fish for himself? Is it loving & caring to always tie your child's shoelaces or to teach them to do it for themselves? Is it loving & caring to get an addict their drug of choice or to help them to recover from it? Is it loving & caring to clean up someone's mess (house, life, relationships,...) or let them suffer their own consequences? The loving & caring thing is often unclear. We try to help sometimes, but what we are actually doing is enabling others not to learn to care for themselves, we are being codependent. I've been doing what I do professionally for 19 years now & it took me quite a few years more than I'd care to admit to, to realise that I can't help people who don't help themselves. That is: if someone isn't seeking the help & isn't willing to invest in themselves to get that help, then if I try to help it never helps them. Loving & caring for those who don't do love & care for themselves always backfires. The love & care can't be received, they are like endless drains never able to be filled because we cannot be any one else's source. Their source is within themselves, their own connection with the true source. Take a look around you. Who are you loving & caring for? Who drains you? Who uplifts you? Who are you constantly trying to fix because they seem such a mess? The loving & caring thing to do is to allow them to find their own power within them, for them to actually feel the consequences of their not looking after themselves so that they have the motivation to do it for themselves. This often means people have to hit rock bottom before they will bounce back, but we have all been there & bounce back we do! Are there parts of your life where you are not loving & caring for yourself? Because just as we can enable others who aren't caring for themselves, we can also be the ones who aren't loving & caring for ourselves & wanting others to do that for us. It could be your health, or your relationships, or your finances, or addictions,... When you start to love & care for yourself, you open the door to other people who are loving & caring for themselves, who can also love & care for you too, to come in. When loving & caring people love & care for each other it's a win win situation. It uplifts everyone & disempowers no-one. Which brings me to how you can love & care for others & have a positive effect. Loving & caring for those who are loving & caring for themselves. They are taking responsibility. You are taking responsibility. Neither you nor them NEED care from others, but they want it. This care can be received because they are already receiving the care from themselves. The love is uplifting for everyone because it's reciprocated. It's magical. It never depletes. It is the only true giving. It can only be given by those loving & caring for themselves first.  I'm Claire Louise Hay, I help you claim your true power to manifest the life of your dreams through self-awareness and alignment with your higher self. Want to work with me? Click here to find out how!  In my many years of giving psychic readings, helping my customers to get aligned with what they want in life & manifest it all, one thing comes up over & over again, that is: asking for the wrong things from the universe in the first place. Mary wants to lose weight, so she has an idea that she might exercise. She asks the universe for more air, she knows when she has more air she will be able to exercise. She writes it down in her journal, more air please universe! She affirms it "I have more air!" She tries to find out why she hasn't got more air, she tries to heal it in herself,... She never gets more air. OK, this is a silly example, but it's what people do, over & over again. Everyone knows that you just start exercising & then your body naturally starts to breathe harder & faster, the air is already present in whatever quantity you need. So if Mary had just asked for what she actually wanted, to be slim, then started to exercise, because she had already had the guidance to do that to get to where she wanted to be, she would have naturally attracted more air into her lungs. It was always there available for her, she just needed to do it. Of course people rarely ask for more air, it's usually money that they ask for, thinking that they can only start to ask for what they really want with that money once they have that money, so that they can fulfil their desires themselves & not rely on that pesky universe that demands alignment with what they are asking for! Can you see the problem here? Abundance of anything, air, money, friends, opportunities, apples, yellow butterflies, smiles, customers, ideas, words, thoughts, anything, is ALWAYS available to EVERYBODY. You just have to ask for what you actually want the money FOR & go for that, just start doing it! You just have to ask for what you actually want those friends FOR & just start doing that! You just have to ask for what you want those opportunities FOR & do that! You just have to ask for what you want those apples for & go pick them! You get the picture. Another way that people ask for the wrong thing is that they ask for what they don't want anymore. For example, they might ask for their anxiety to go away, or they might ask for their illness to go away, or they might ask for their depression to be healed. On that face of it this seems like an aware ask, but it won't work. Why do you want your anxiety to go away? What is it that you want a good mental state for? What would you do with that? What is it that you REALLY want? Ask for that! Why do you want your illness to go away? What is it that you want with health & wellbeing? What would you do with that? What is it that you REALLY want? Ask for that! Why do you want your depression to be healed? What is it that you want with a good emotional state? What would you do with that? What is it that you REALLY want? Ask for that! Dream bigger, go deeper, what is it that YOU really want? Share it in the comments below  I'm Claire Louise Hay, I help you claim your true power to manifest the life of your dreams through self-awareness and alignment with your higher self. 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