 I owed myself the biggest apology for accepting what I didn't deserve. I was going through life accepting whatever life threw at me, presuming that everything was a positive match for me if it was right in front of me, having no discernment, making no good choices for myself. I was just putting up with what life gave me & I was often disappointed. I wondered why the universe thought I was a match to people who didn't respect me, who didn't treat me well. (watch this week's guidance video about letting go of the old stories about disrespect) When I had finally had enough of it & retreated back to myself, away from people, to get clear on what I wanted, it all became clear to me. In that alone time, which took months, when I took care of myself to the highest standard I have ever taken care of myself, I got clear on what I wanted & what I deserved in my life. You see I am great, I'm really great. I started to imagine what it would be like to be in a relationship with ME, with someone just like ME, to receive the love & care that I give in relationships. I started to imagine what it would be like to receive all of the love that I give out into the world back, to the same level, in my business, in my social life, in my relationships, from the whole universe. It felt so good that I was clear that this was what I wanted. If I exist, then other people that are like me exist. The universe doesn't ever make one thing alone & leave it to wither & die because it doesn't have more of its kind to reproduce with, to create with. This is nature! I waited, I was clear & I started making good decisions for myself, I started not only to say no to what I didn't want but to clearly show that I would not tolerate that disrespect. I was stronger in myself, in being myself, without caring about what anyone else wanted from me, because I knew what I wanted. Little by little I started attracting more of my kind & life has never felt so good as it does right now. Let go of your old stories of disrespect & tell your story of what you truly want then wait firm for it. What do you really deserve in your life? Tell us in the comments  I'm Claire Louise Hay, I help you claim your true power to manifest the life of your dreams through self-awareness and alignment with your higher self.
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 To claim your power might seem like something you have to do, something that you have to fight for or some behaviour that you have to add into your life. However, empowerment is more about what you let go of. In this week's guidance we were told to let go of what doesn't empower you. How do we even do that? The answer is in self-awareness, which is another way of saying listening to your inner guidance. So what in your life makes you feel small? What diminishes your energy? What makes you step back? What makes you shy away? What makes you go quiet? What makes you tense? All of these feelings are guidance that these are things that don't empower you & you can choose not to have them in your life. That doesn't mean fight them to change them, it means just let them go. Socrates said "The secret to change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new." What are the things in your life that make you feel great? That make you feel big, confident, happy, relaxed, powerful,..? This is your guidance too. Focus on those things, say yes to them in your life. So claiming your power isn't about trying to change what is in your life to make you feel better, it's not about taking those things that make you feel bad & pretending they make you feel good, it's not about fighting for the world to be a place that will make you feel better. It's just about choosing what does make you feel better. It's about choosing what allows your energy to grow. What can you let go of today that diminishes your energy? Tell us in the comments!  I'm Claire Louise Hay, I help you claim your true power to manifest the life of your dreams through self-awareness and alignment with your higher self.
Want to work with me? Click here to find out how!  Change! Don't you just love it? No? Me neither! Change is unsettling, it makes us feel vulnerable, it takes us out of our comfort zones, it puts our mind on high alert & it starts to convince us that the sky is falling, we will surely die! Last week's weekly guidance video said it would be a week of letting go & wow was it that for me! I have let go of business systems, of my old website, of my old email list (thanks & bye!), I've let go of services, of some of my old blogs,... It all had to go so that I could be true to who I am now. As I read through my old blog posts I realised just how much I have changed over the years. I am empowered now. I am less crystals & soothing, more c'mon let's do this! I'm am less ouch let's heal that, more let's get on making our dreams come true! I'm freaking out inside, my stress levels are up, I feel vulnerable, but I am moving forward, one step at a time, because there is this spark inside of me that knows that this is the right thing to do. What is mine won't ever go past me, so it's ok to let go & start again. I know that to be true. I can trust in that. In fact letting go of old energy is the best thing to do to allow the changes that you really want to rush in to meet you. So this is it! Onward & upward! What is yours won't ever go past you either, so what can you let go of today to allow the changes you really want to come rushing in? Speak out & commit to it in the comments below, let us be there for you!  I'm Claire Louise Hay, I help you claim your true power to manifest the life of your dreams through self-awareness and alignment with your higher self.
Want to work with me? Click here to find out how!  Compassionate souls have a desire to love & care for everybody, especially those who aren't looking after themselves. But these same compassionate souls have hard lesson after hard lesson while they do this, until they learn the difference between enabling & the loving care that actually benefits the recipient. In the 1980's food aid was sent into Africa to help feed those who were struggling to feed themselves. It had an unintended negative consequence. Free food was dropped into communities. These communities were used to growing their own food, but once they had a supply of free food they stopped planting their crops, they stopped tending to the land, they didn't need to anymore, food was being brought to them. So when the free food ran out, they were left in a worse position than before. They had to start again with even less resources than they had before. There are numerous examples that show us that doing things for other people, rather than empowering them to do it for themselves, has disasterous consequences. It's easy to see these things on the bigger scale, for the obvious examples, but what about when we look at the smaller scale, who we are loving & caring for around us? Is it loving & caring to give a man free fish or to teach him to fish for himself? Is it loving & caring to always tie your child's shoelaces or to teach them to do it for themselves? Is it loving & caring to get an addict their drug of choice or to help them to recover from it? Is it loving & caring to clean up someone's mess (house, life, relationships,...) or let them suffer their own consequences? The loving & caring thing is often unclear. We try to help sometimes, but what we are actually doing is enabling others not to learn to care for themselves, we are being codependent. I've been doing what I do professionally for 19 years now & it took me quite a few years more than I'd care to admit to, to realise that I can't help people who don't help themselves. That is: if someone isn't seeking the help & isn't willing to invest in themselves to get that help, then if I try to help it never helps them. Loving & caring for those who don't do love & care for themselves always backfires. The love & care can't be received, they are like endless drains never able to be filled because we cannot be any one else's source. Their source is within themselves, their own connection with the true source. Take a look around you. Who are you loving & caring for? Who drains you? Who uplifts you? Who are you constantly trying to fix because they seem such a mess? The loving & caring thing to do is to allow them to find their own power within them, for them to actually feel the consequences of their not looking after themselves so that they have the motivation to do it for themselves. This often means people have to hit rock bottom before they will bounce back, but we have all been there & bounce back we do! Are there parts of your life where you are not loving & caring for yourself? Because just as we can enable others who aren't caring for themselves, we can also be the ones who aren't loving & caring for ourselves & wanting others to do that for us. It could be your health, or your relationships, or your finances, or addictions,... When you start to love & care for yourself, you open the door to other people who are loving & caring for themselves, who can also love & care for you too, to come in. When loving & caring people love & care for each other it's a win win situation. It uplifts everyone & disempowers no-one. Which brings me to how you can love & care for others & have a positive effect. Loving & caring for those who are loving & caring for themselves. They are taking responsibility. You are taking responsibility. Neither you nor them NEED care from others, but they want it. This care can be received because they are already receiving the care from themselves. The love is uplifting for everyone because it's reciprocated. It's magical. It never depletes. It is the only true giving. It can only be given by those loving & caring for themselves first.  I'm Claire Louise Hay, I help you claim your true power to manifest the life of your dreams through self-awareness and alignment with your higher self. Want to work with me? Click here to find out how!  I used to have no boundaries & very little judgement. I thought that this was a good & spiritual way to be. But it led me into many difficulties in life. Since I figured out the difference between judgment & discernment I've been able to have clear boundaries & have been able to make good choices for myself. I see so many spiritual types with no boundaries, constantly allowing unwanted into their lives because they don't want to be judgmental, & I see what a disempowering effect that has on their lives. You see judgment is a state of being in which you have critical thinking, you are looking for the flaws, what is wrong, it leaves you focused on what you don't like, on the problems to fix,... All of that focus just law of attracts more experiences that you don't like, more people that you don't want to be around, more problems,... Discernment on the other hand is a willingness to make a quick yes or no decision based on whether something or someone is for you or not. It requires that you are in tune with yourself so that you can feel whether something or someone feels good to you or not. Discernment is about deciding for yourself whether something is allowed in your life or not, in that moment when it shows up in your life. When discernment gives you a yes, you focus on that thing that you want, on the positive. When discernment gives you a no, you turn away from it, or them, trusting your choice, so that you can continue to focus on what you want. When you are in judgment & you finally decide on a no, judgment has you continued to focus on what you didn't want. It has you blaming or feeling guilty for that no, it has you feeling shame that you decided to say no, it has you wishing that things were different, that they were different so that it could have been a yes. Judgment is an inability to choose what is best for you. Paradoxically, the very people who try not to judge tend to be the ones who judge the most, because their not wanting to discern what is good for them or not, has a constant stream of unwanted things & people in their lives, & if you surround yourself with the unwanted it is very difficult not to judge it. Discernment can only happen when you KNOW that you deserve & you KNOW that it's ok to choose what's best for you in every moment. As you say YES to the wanted & can focus on that good stuff you get more of that. As you say NO to the unwanted & quickly shift your focus from it with no inner repercussions, your life will be an upward spiral of awesomeness.  I'm Claire Louise Hay, I help you claim your true power to manifest the life of your dreams through self-awareness and alignment with your higher self. Want to work with me? Click here to find out how! |
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