 I used to think it was my duty to sacrifice myself for others. I used to think I was a good person for trying to help anyone I saw in need of help, whether they asked for it or not. I used to think I gained some kind of credit for giving up my energy, my wishes, my well-being, my time, to give others what they wanted. At one point I was doing it in my business too, I was giving all of myself, constantly every day & getting so little in return. It was exhausting & I used to think it was other people's problem. I had believed the rhetoric that if you just give, give & then give some more then it will come back to you, eventually. But then it never did. What did happen was that I burned out & I became resentful that I was giving it all without getting what I needed, never mind what I wanted. I learned that this kind of giving is in fact judgment of others. So imagine someone coming up to you & telling you that something in your life, that you love, that you enjoy, is actually a problem & they have come to fix it! You know how that would feel right? Hmm, actually, this isn't a problem, I love it. Or maybe you would believe them & allow them to "help" you? I know I have done both in the past. But I have also been this person perceiving problems where there really aren't any. Trying to help when really I am judging what I see in others as a problem when it isn't, or if it is, that's for them to decide & to find their solution in connection with their higher self. The thing is when we are in alignment, when we are focused on our life & creating what we want in our lives to make ourselves feel good, then we end up being of true service to others, not by looking at them & deciding they have a problem, but by doing what makes us feel great. For example, I love doing the weight loss coaching, but I'm not going up to people who I think are fat & asking them do they want it? Ha ha, I am just putting it out there for those that do & having a great time teaching them & helping them when they ask for it, no judgment involved. I love giving readings, but I'm not going out looking for people with problems to ask them do they want a reading on it (I so used to do that!) I just offer the service for those who want it. I love doing the management for my friend at the Muay Thai gym here, it is so much fun, but it wasn't because I thought he had a problem with it. However, in the last few days I have found myself seeing problems in my close relationships & wanting to help. Just after I shot the week ahead reading I realised that I was doing it again! You see, everything should be a win win situation. You don't need to give up anything for anyone else. Martyrdom isn't cool it's really annoying to everyone including the martyr! When you are in true alignment, doing what makes you feel great, you will want to do things that help others, not because you have noticed there is a problem with them, but because it feels so much fun to do it. Take a look at what you are doing that doesn't feel good. Why are you doing it? What is the problem that you have perceived that needs to be fixed by you doing this? Isn't that a judgment? Could you allow yourself to just do what you love? Let us know in the comments!  The only thing stopping you from instantly manifesting anything you want is not being in alignment with it, or in other words, a block to it. A block is a resistance to, or a contradiction to, what you really want.
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 Worry is like praying for what you don't want. When we worry we are imagining the worst possible scenarios, we are focusing on what we don't want happening in the future. Our minds hold our super powers. We are conscious creators & we attract what it is we are thinking about. The way this happens is by the law of attraction. When we worry, when we focus on what we don't want to happen, worried that it might happen, firstly we attract more thoughts that are like that worried thought. When we worry it feels bad, this heightened negative emotion tells us that our higher selves don't agree with the way we are thinking, but it also shows us that we are adding our other super power, our emotions, to fuel the attractor pattern, we are literally throwing gasoline on the fire that we already started. So our minds will naturally pick up on even more worrying thoughts, thoughts that other people have had, thoughts that you have had in the past & your mind gains a kind of momentum on this same subject of worry. This momentum will then attract evidence in the world around you, so you will see what you are worried about around you, you will see it happening to other people, you will witness it around you. With this evidence, your mind believes it even more & more momentum is gained. Until you manifest it for yourself & say "See! I knew that would happen! I was right!" but the truth is "See! I made that happen! I created it!" So how can we break free of this worrying pattern? It might seem logical to affirm the opposite, so if you're worried that you will fall off a cliff, to repeat to yourself "I won't fall off the cliff, I won't fall off the cliff" or if you are worried about money to affirm "I am wealthy". However, the mind is not stupid, it cannot be convinced of these things that are in opposition of its trajectory. The 5 steps to stop worrying 1. Own up to you using your super powerful mind to create what you don't want. Make the decision to change this from this day forward. 2. Be compassionate with yourself. Negative thoughts feel horrible. It's important to soothe ourselves rather than punish ourselves for this. Give yourself a hug. 3. Know that with a momentum of worry it will be hard to change, that you will naturally keep attracting similar thoughts for a while, but with ongoing awareness you can turn it around. 4. Relax. Breathe. Clear your mind. Focus on the small simple things that make you feel better. Stroke the cat. Go for a walk in nature. Do the gardening. Work out. Wash the dishes. Clean out the garage. Take care of yourself. Eat well... When you focus on these small things, taking care of yourself, on the simple things that make you feel good, you distract your mind from the other stuff. Meditation will be difficult when you are in worry, but once you are focused on the simple things, you will feel better & meditation will be easier. A clear mind will naturally tend to the positive because your higher self will pull you in that direction 5. Don't talk about your worries with others. Don't engage in conversation about it when others want to talk about their worries. Don't read about things that worry you. Don't watch the news. Don't watch worrying movies. Protect yourself from anything that instigates more of the worry energy. Give yourself the best chance possible. Listen to inspiring podcasts. Watch inspiring movies. Read inspiring stories. Look for evidence of positivity in your world & you will find it. Practice these 5 steps consistently until you gain a positive momentum that is easy to maintain. See you on that positive spiral!  The only thing stopping you from instantly manifesting anything you want is not being in alignment with it, or in other words, a block to it. A block is a resistance to, or a contradiction to, what you really want.
What is your biggest block? How can you release it? Your higher self knows the easiest path to releasing your greatest resistance & can lead you step by step to breaking free of it. Click here to book your biggest block reading today!  On a beautiful sunny day I was walking along the beach, returning to my beach bungalow when I saw a group of my friends from the nearby yoga centre, they were worried. The yoga teacher had lost the key to the yoga centre, it was a beautiful antique key for an antique padlock from Tibet. There were only 2 keys, the owner had one & the other was for whichever yoga teacher was taking the next class. Losing the key was a big problem for them. She knew where she had walked since she had last had the key, she had walked between the yoga centre & the beach. She felt so terrible for her boss, she didn't want to have lost the key that had sentimental value to him. More people joined the search for the key. I needed to go buy some food, so as I walked the stretch of path between the beach & the yoga centre, I casually looked down, hoping to find it, but I didn't. On my way back with my food, they were still searching for it & as I got closer to my beach bungalow I glanced to the right of the path & there was an antique key on a piece of ribbon. I picked it up & skipped back to the yoga centre with it to give it back to them. They were so grateful. I explained that you can't find what you believe is lost. So even though many people had looked at that section of the path, they hadn't found it because they believed it lost. But it was more than that. They were all very emotionally involved with the lost key. They were worried, they felt terrible. I wasn't emotionally involved in it, I was carrying on with my day after a casual attempt to find it & I had let it go. This is why I could see it there on the path when others couldn't. I was reminded of this story last week by the still very grateful yoga centre owner. But again, reminded of it today, this time by my higher self as a key to helping me with my life right now. There are two things in my life I am struggling with right now, I am totally emotionally involved in them. I'm worried, I'm fighting it, I'm not accepting of either of them, I'm trying to control it, I'm trying to change it & both are completely lost to me. I can't see the key on the path. I'm too emotionally involved in it. I know that I need to let go. I even know that everything is ok & will be ok, with both of them, because they always are. But still I am struggling with this emotional involvement, which is keeping the manifestation of what I want to come about easily. I'm struggling to let go & allow the key to reveal itself. So I ask my higher self for some help. What can I do to let go? This was the response: Refocus on something else that you don't have a problem with, one step at a time, every time you find yourself focused on what is worrying you again, refocus on something else. How often do you stay focused on the struggle, on the things in your life that you are emotionally involved in, thinking that you can figure it out? Has that ever worked for you? Or is it only when you have let go of it, surrendered, that what you wanted manifested with ease? It's time to focus on something else, on something that is easy, on something that you're not worried about, on something simple, like getting your dinner, like taking care of yourself, those easy things that have no emotional attachments, knowing that the universe will show you the key that you have been looking for in good time.  I'm Claire Louise Hay, I help you claim your true power to manifest the life of your dreams through self-awareness and alignment with your higher self.
Want to work with me? Click here to find out how!  We have been sold a lie that it's our action that makes things happen, that it's our words that cause changes in people & situations around us, that it's our will power that is our true power. None of this is true. Our true power lies in our energy, in our consciousness, in our alignment. The universe & people respond to your energy more than any words that you speak. You only need to look around you at those you react to to see that this is true. It's not about what they say, it's about who you feel they are. This means that confrontation is not the best way of dealing with problems. Because the problem is within us & our energy. However, when the problem is in us & it causes painful situations, we still need to feel & release those emotions involved, through expressing them, but not using this to try to change another. An example: Mary is insecure. She's in a relationship, which is a good relationship, but she feels jealousy when he sees her partner show any attention to another woman. This jealousy feels terrible to her, it's not something that can be ignored because it hurts her. But confrontation is not the way to approach this, because the problem is not with her partner. Yet she needs to express her feelings truthfully to release them before she can look deeper at the cause of this within her. The best way to do this is to write a letter that never gets sent. Her feelings are real, they are a reaction to her thoughts & the situation, and in writing a letter to her partner about her feelings, she can feel them & release it. It's like having the confrontation that your emotions are telling you to have, in order to release them, without having the confrontation itself. This sets Mary free to then look within at why she has a pattern of feeling insecure so that she can choose to feel secure. The whole world responds to your energy, your alignment, more than your words or actions. Your energy is already heard by the whole universe, you don't need to plead your case to be heard.  I'm Claire Louise Hay, I help you claim your true power to manifest the life of your dreams through self-awareness and alignment with your higher self.
Want to work with me? Click here to find out how!  It was a celebration, smoke filled the room, everyone was drunk, apart from me, I was a small child. My uncle was blowing smoke rings & I was catching them by poking my finger through them "I'll blow smoke rings when I'm a grown up, this is fun!" The adults had stopped making fun of my shyness, they'd stopped laughing at my body, they'd stopped trying to get me to admit that I fancied my cousin, I didn't even know what that meant anyway. The ordeal upstairs had also stopped. I had been molested by the boys, each taking turns to get into bed with me to touch me. My brother being both the ringleader & the first. This was not a safe situation. I was not cared for. This was an abusive situation, the only reality that I knew. Once I was old enough to take care of myself I removed myself from this abuse, or so I had thought. The truth was I was taking care of myself to the almost the same low levels. At age 47 I was still around alcoholics, I was still being made fun of, I was still being yelled at & put down by people who were pretending to love me, I was still around people who made me feel unsafe, I was still in that smoky atmosphere pretending that I was having fun. It was a shock to wake up to the fact that I was neglecting myself, that I wasn't caring for myself, that I wasn't protecting myself, that I wasn't choosing good situations for myself, still. So I took action, I removed myself from the toxicity. I started to take good care of myself, to be the parent for myself that I wish I had had. The ways in which I find easy to take care of myself, my diet, exercise, they were all ways in which I was taken care of as a child. That has come "naturally" to me as a result of my childhood programming. It's the destructive programming that has to go. Deciding on new boundaries & taking action on them, stepping away from what is not good for me is where I am at. The void. I know that the next step will come naturally when I am ready, when I am re-programmed, the stepping toward what IS good for me. Everyday I'm meditating, I'm exercising, I'm eating healthily, I'm working, I'm reading, I'm going to bed early. I'm focused on the basics, the foundations of good self-care, focused on what I can do positively for myself. I'll let you know when the next step comes along. Are you still caring for yourself in the same way, negative & positive, that you were cared for as a child? Do you need to start to take care of yourself better?  I'm Claire Louise Hay, I help you claim your true power to manifest the life of your dreams through self-awareness and alignment with your higher self. Want to work with me? Click here to find out how! |
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