![]() You know when you blow up a balloon? You take an in breath and blow it up a little, it takes a great effort to start it off. Then you take another breath and blow it up some more, this goes on and on until it eventually gets to the size that you want it to be. There is very little stress involved in this process, because you understand the process well. Now imagine that you are totally focused on the balloon and not on the process that it’s going through. You’d see it grow then get disappointed that it had stopped growing, then see it grow again getting excited, but oh no it’s stopped again, there must be something wrong with it, oh hang on it’s growing again. It still gets to where you want it to be, but you’re focused on the outcome instead of the process, and it makes you feel like crap. So it is with life. If you focus on the outcomes you're going to feel like crap because you are not seeing the reality that is all in the process. You set an intention for expansion in your life & then you go through a process of growth to get there, along the way there may be gifts & outcomes, but it won't be steady, there will be those in breaths & out breaths. Carry on. ![]() I'm Claire Louise Hay, I help you claim your true power to manifest the life of your dreams through self-awareness and alignment with your higher self. Want to work with me? Click here to find out how!
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![]() 2 weeks ago Jarrod & I went to Brisbane for the day. We had so much fun & I never felt more in love & happy. Whilst we were there I kept seeing road signs flashing up "EXPECT CHANGE" & I got excited because I have been asking for big things. Exactly 1 week later I received the guidance that our relationship was over. Specifically that there was no more growth for either of us available in this relationship. I went into shock. I asked for confirmation. I did 1001 readings on it. It was confirmed over & over again. It was true. Jarrod taught me the art of emotional communication for which I will be eternally grateful. I summoned up all of my courage & I told him the guidance I was given. For the next 2 days we were both in denial. Jarrod seemed to forget what I had said. I wanted to ignore it & carry on in our wonderful lives together. I knew we needed to talk about it again so I summoned up all of my courage & we talked & we cried together. Jarrod said he had had the feeling 6 months ago that he was holding me back now & we needed to part ways, but he didn't trust that guidance. I had had no idea. The grief that lasted 2 days was centred around our attachment to each other. Our shared dreams that would be lost, Our mutual emotional support of each other. Our inspiration for each other. We realised that none of this would be lost. We would still be each others emotional support. We would still inspire each other. We would still achieve our dreams, only not together. We realised that we weren't losing our love for each other, but we were just transitioning the relationship into friendship. That eased our hearts. As I slowly detached from this relationship (we agreed to take it slow & as easy as possible for each other) I felt my self love rising up. I had gone into this relationship believing that Jarrod was my forever soul mate & I am glad that I did that. Because of that belief I put my whole heart & soul into the relationship & I would not change a thing, not in this relationship or my next. We are loving each other & letting each other go. It's actually much easier than holding onto a relationship until it turns to shit & then dumping it all & disconnecting completely. I know. That's what I used to do. That's what most people do. But you don't need to wait until relationships turn to shit. You don't need to wait until you hate them. You can act on the first inkling or guidance that it's over & you can let go. You do not need to justify the release to anyone else but each other, and 2 self aware people in a relationship will both know the truth in it. As I detached I realised just how much of myself I was putting aside in order to put our relationship first. It was time to reconnect to me. It was time to love all of myself including those parts I had placed on the shelf for this relationship. My heart expanded. I feel better about myself than I ever have. I am owning & loving every part of me without shame, guilt or apology. I am *so* grateful for the past 6 years together. They have truly been the best years of my life. I am excited that this ending means that there are even better times on the way. I realised that I have always been masculine in every relationship I ever had. I was taught that I had to be masculine to achieve anything good in this world as a child, so I became masculine like almost every other woman on this planet today. Many of you will know that it has been my focus since my mid 20's to find out what it is to be feminine, empowered feminine. There were no examples not in history nor around me. I looked far & wide. I only found women being masculine to achieve empowerment. So this journey needed to come from within me (as so many do). I have spent the last 2 years focused on changing my business so that I can be feminine in it & I have achieved that. Now it's time to do the same thing within my relationships. I connected in with what I really want from a relationship next, in order for me to grow. This is what I want & what I have never yet experienced: A man who is like me in many ways. He's creative, he's successful, he's accomplished, he's a leader in his field, he is abundant, he cares about the world, he wants to change the world for the better in a big way, he looks after himself, he exercises, he eats nutritious food, he has passion, he has drive, he has motivation, he takes the lead, he is not afraid to show the world who he is & to go for whatever he wants. A man who is my compliment. He's masculine, he is probably frustrated at being with masculine women & has decided he wants an empowered woman who inspires him but who can also be feminine & let him take the lead, he wants to be the protector & giver, he wants to be appreciated for every part of him & what he has accomplished. He wants a woman who will love him, guide him & be offer him the feminine support so that he can stand in his masculine power & focus on what he wants to accomplish. A man who will stretch me into learning how to receive & be taken care of. I see this dynamic very clearly & the kind of man that my soul mate is. & I'm ready, every single part of me is ready. I'm excited for my next life unfoldment. I'm a bit scared as to how receiving from a man will make me feel (vulnerable) but I want to feel that & work through it. This morning after my workout, swim & meditation, I had a song in my head "The Power of Love" specifically this part of it: 'Cause I am your lady and you are my man Whenever you reach for me, I'll do all that I can We're heading for something Somewhere I've never been, sometimes I am frightened But I'm ready to learn 'bout the power of love. ![]() I'm Claire Louise Hay, I help you claim your true power to manifest the life of your dreams through self-awareness and alignment with your higher self. Want to work with me? Click here to find out how! ![]() Matthew McConaughey gave an awesome speech yesterday at the Oscars, did you hear it? He said "It's a scientific fact that gratitude reciprocates" I concur & here's some proof of my own: I decided to employ a team of cleaners to clean my house every week. They showed up as two lovely, cheerful ladies who had such great energy & did such a great job. I was so grateful to not only have my house cleaned for me, but to have them visit each week. My gratitude would last for quite a few days every single week, because as the house would get dirty I would be grateful that it didn't make me feel bad anymore, because I knew that the cleaners would arrive in a few days & clean it all for me. After a couple of weeks I started to leave them to it. They would arrive, we would chat, then I would go get myself a massage while they cleaned my house. I didn't think it could get much better than this: double receiving! I would get back from my massage all relaxed to a wonderfully clean house. I was so so grateful, every single week, for the majority of the week. But then it got even better. My partner started to earn more money & so he started paying for the cleaners each week. Triple receiving for me! I was not only getting my house cleaned, but it was being paid for by someone else & I was receiving a massage every week. I was overflowing with gratitude at how great it all was. It can't get any better than that right? It did! My partner started to give me money to have my massage as well as the money for the cleaners: quadruple receiving! I was having my house cleaned for me, it was being paid for by someone else, I was being massaged & that was also being paid for by someone else. I am so so grateful. It doesn't get any better than that right? I'll let you know how the universe steps it up next! My point is: all of this happened because I can't help but feel so much gratitude for it all. Something that would make me feel bad for most of the week, watching the floors get dirty with cat hairs, knowing that I had to clean it up, knowing that it would make my back ache to clean it up, knowing that I would have to get around to it soon,... was now making me feel amazing the whole week. Getting those cleaners was the second best decision I ever made, the best decision I ever made was deciding to feel gratitude for it all. What change can you make that will turn around a bad feeling into gratitude? ![]() I'm Claire Louise Hay, I help you claim your true power to manifest the life of your dreams through self-awareness and alignment with your higher self. Want to work with me? Click here to find out how! |
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