 I used to think it was my duty to sacrifice myself for others. I used to think I was a good person for trying to help anyone I saw in need of help, whether they asked for it or not. I used to think I gained some kind of credit for giving up my energy, my wishes, my well-being, my time, to give others what they wanted. At one point I was doing it in my business too, I was giving all of myself, constantly every day & getting so little in return. It was exhausting & I used to think it was other people's problem. I had believed the rhetoric that if you just give, give & then give some more then it will come back to you, eventually. But then it never did. What did happen was that I burned out & I became resentful that I was giving it all without getting what I needed, never mind what I wanted. I learned that this kind of giving is in fact judgment of others. So imagine someone coming up to you & telling you that something in your life, that you love, that you enjoy, is actually a problem & they have come to fix it! You know how that would feel right? Hmm, actually, this isn't a problem, I love it. Or maybe you would believe them & allow them to "help" you? I know I have done both in the past. But I have also been this person perceiving problems where there really aren't any. Trying to help when really I am judging what I see in others as a problem when it isn't, or if it is, that's for them to decide & to find their solution in connection with their higher self. The thing is when we are in alignment, when we are focused on our life & creating what we want in our lives to make ourselves feel good, then we end up being of true service to others, not by looking at them & deciding they have a problem, but by doing what makes us feel great. For example, I love doing the weight loss coaching, but I'm not going up to people who I think are fat & asking them do they want it? Ha ha, I am just putting it out there for those that do & having a great time teaching them & helping them when they ask for it, no judgment involved. I love giving readings, but I'm not going out looking for people with problems to ask them do they want a reading on it (I so used to do that!) I just offer the service for those who want it. I love doing the management for my friend at the Muay Thai gym here, it is so much fun, but it wasn't because I thought he had a problem with it. However, in the last few days I have found myself seeing problems in my close relationships & wanting to help. Just after I shot the week ahead reading I realised that I was doing it again! You see, everything should be a win win situation. You don't need to give up anything for anyone else. Martyrdom isn't cool it's really annoying to everyone including the martyr! When you are in true alignment, doing what makes you feel great, you will want to do things that help others, not because you have noticed there is a problem with them, but because it feels so much fun to do it. Take a look at what you are doing that doesn't feel good. Why are you doing it? What is the problem that you have perceived that needs to be fixed by you doing this? Isn't that a judgment? Could you allow yourself to just do what you love? Let us know in the comments!  The only thing stopping you from instantly manifesting anything you want is not being in alignment with it, or in other words, a block to it. A block is a resistance to, or a contradiction to, what you really want.
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 We have been sold a lie that it's our action that makes things happen, that it's our words that cause changes in people & situations around us, that it's our will power that is our true power. None of this is true. Our true power lies in our energy, in our consciousness, in our alignment. The universe & people respond to your energy more than any words that you speak. You only need to look around you at those you react to to see that this is true. It's not about what they say, it's about who you feel they are. This means that confrontation is not the best way of dealing with problems. Because the problem is within us & our energy. However, when the problem is in us & it causes painful situations, we still need to feel & release those emotions involved, through expressing them, but not using this to try to change another. An example: Mary is insecure. She's in a relationship, which is a good relationship, but she feels jealousy when he sees her partner show any attention to another woman. This jealousy feels terrible to her, it's not something that can be ignored because it hurts her. But confrontation is not the way to approach this, because the problem is not with her partner. Yet she needs to express her feelings truthfully to release them before she can look deeper at the cause of this within her. The best way to do this is to write a letter that never gets sent. Her feelings are real, they are a reaction to her thoughts & the situation, and in writing a letter to her partner about her feelings, she can feel them & release it. It's like having the confrontation that your emotions are telling you to have, in order to release them, without having the confrontation itself. This sets Mary free to then look within at why she has a pattern of feeling insecure so that she can choose to feel secure. The whole world responds to your energy, your alignment, more than your words or actions. Your energy is already heard by the whole universe, you don't need to plead your case to be heard.  I'm Claire Louise Hay, I help you claim your true power to manifest the life of your dreams through self-awareness and alignment with your higher self.
Want to work with me? Click here to find out how!  You've heard about the law of attraction right? It has the power to totally transform your life from mundane to magical once you understand that your thoughts & energy creates. But there is also a lot of mis-information out there, or information that can be taken the wrong way. I used to be confused about my negative feelings, about what to do with them, about HOW to use them as feedback. Do I ignore the feelings so that I don't attract more of what is making me feel bad? Do I let bad feelings pass me by? Do I ignore what is causing these bad feelings & pretend I don't see them? If I act on these feelings to remove it from my life, am I just inviting more of what makes me feel bad in? If I'm experiencing contrast am I doing something wrong? Am I wrong? There are thoughts within us that give us negative feelings & there are things, people, places, etc. outside of us that give us negative feelings. When it is our own thoughts or projections that are giving us these negative feelings then that is a sure sign that our higher selves don't agree with us & a change in our thoughts to aligned thoughts will make us feel better. But when it is something outside of ourselves that is making us feel bad, is that bad feeling an emotional reaction that will attract more of what we don't want, or is it important feedback to take action to get rid of it from our lives? Let's look at this example: Mary doesn't like it when people are rude to her or even if she sees someone being rude to someone else. It drives her crazy. On Monday she was busy at work when someone came into the shop & after just a short wait they started complaining to her that she hadn't helped them yet. She was really busy & had even speeded up what she was doing so that she could help them sooner, but now she felt like stopping what she was doing & making them wait even longer. She pushed her feelings down & told them she wouldn't be much longer & she helped them as soon as she could. In her break later she complained with her colleagues about rude entitled people & how they are the worst part of the job. Will Mary keep attracting rude impatient people in this example? Yes she will. She didn't feel the negative emotion that she was feeling & use it to act upon it, to either make a new decision as to whether she really wants to work there, or to tell the customer that she isn't able to give instant service because she has other things to do first but maybe there is somewhere else that can give instant service, or to tell them that she cannot help them & to know for sure that she doesn't need inpatient rude customers because she prefers patient, appreciative customers instead. Instead she prioritised the customers negative feelings instead of her own negative feelings & she took the blow of it. Subtle changes in the way we deal with things makes all the difference. But let's make it simple & talk about rotting fruit instead. If there is some rotting fruit in your fruit bowl, should you: a. Ignore it or you might attract more rotten fruit into your life then wonder what you did wrong when all of your fruit becomes rotten, maybe you didn't ignore it perfectly enough? b. Look at the rotten fruit, pretend that it isn't rotten, affirm that it is fresh & meditate? c. Throw the rotten fruit out before it makes the other fruit rotten because you prefer fresh fruit & you want to enjoy the fruit that is good? Now it's simple. The answer is c. But but but... that's an action step & law of attraction says that I created it! No. Rotting fruit exists. Think of it as contrast. It's ok for rotting fruit to exist. All fruit rots when it is left long enough. You might even let it inspire you to eat your fruit more quickly, or to buy less of it in future. The truth is that if you don't feel your negative emotions & act on them in the moment, you'll end up with all of your fruit rotting because when you leave a piece of rotting fruit it will infect the rest of the fruit bowl. But then don't go around telling all of your friends the story about your rotting fruit, asking them if their fruit also rots, joining a protest group about rotting fruit & dedicating your life to the elimination of rotten fruit, because that WILL attract more! Have you been ignoring the rotting fruit in your life? How has that been affecting the rest of your life? Tell us in the comments below  I'm Claire Louise Hay, I help you claim your true power to manifest the life of your dreams through self-awareness and alignment with your higher self.
Want to work with me? Click here to find out how!  I'm not into fluffy-nonsense spirituality. If it isn't practical & it can't help me to get into alignment then it can flow right out of my experience. Don't get me wrong, there is a place for soothing, there is a time for comfort & hugs when you are damaged & raw. But once we are over those wobbly times we need empowered practical advice! The path of love: Fluffy nonsense or practical life advice? I googled path of love just before I wrote this, I found some fluffy nonsense & I also found some things that are just plain wrong: it's not for the faint of heart, it's a test, it's charity, forget the I, it's never a smooth ride,... Let me tell you what the path of love actually is, according to my very practical higher self! You are a unique being, you have your own personal blend of likes, dislikes, & things you love. As you focus on the things that you love, doing them, writing about them, singing about them, you feel more love. As you feel more love you attract thoughts, things, people, opportunities that match that. This means that you attract thoughts about more things that you already love or will love if only you knew about them. You attract things that you love. You attract people who you love & those who you will love once you meet them. You attract opportunities to feel more love. You become a total love magnet, attracting the things that YOU love. It's very much a personal path of selfishness. You can't get that same feeling by focusing on things that other people love but you don't. You can't get it by focusing on what you don't like in the world. You can't get it from focusing on what you don't like. You can't get it by focusing on what you think is wrong with the world, with people, with you,... Once you are on this path of love, you get super focused on certain things that you really love, you start to share it with the world, people who would also love what you love can't help but be attracted to your love vibe, they want to love what you love too, they want what you have. You attract your tribe of people who love what you love & you all love it together feeling more & more joy. It's infectious. Then you see something that you don't love. You don't feel good. Now you're on the path of hate, you don't like it, you attract more things that you don't like, you start to see things wrong with people, the world, you feel worse & worse, you attract people who don't love either, who are hating too, you get together to right the wrongs of the world & you fool yourself into thinking you are on the path of love, it's not for the faint of heart, it's a test, it's charity, forget the I, it's never a smooth ride,... Then you wake up, you focus on what you love again, you get back on the true path of love. The only way onto this path of love is from within. You MUST focus on what YOU love & remain true to that. When you get on this upward spiral it gets easier & easier to stay on the path of love. You will be amazed at where the path of love will take you in life, to the best places, the best people, the best opportunities, the best feelings, the best relationships, the best business, the most joy, the most fun, to everything you have ever wanted! Where can you start today? What do you love? Tell us in the comments.  I'm Claire Louise Hay, I help you claim your true power to manifest the life of your dreams through self-awareness and alignment with your higher self.
Want to work with me? Click here to find out how!  To claim your power might seem like something you have to do, something that you have to fight for or some behaviour that you have to add into your life. However, empowerment is more about what you let go of. In this week's guidance we were told to let go of what doesn't empower you. How do we even do that? The answer is in self-awareness, which is another way of saying listening to your inner guidance. So what in your life makes you feel small? What diminishes your energy? What makes you step back? What makes you shy away? What makes you go quiet? What makes you tense? All of these feelings are guidance that these are things that don't empower you & you can choose not to have them in your life. That doesn't mean fight them to change them, it means just let them go. Socrates said "The secret to change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new." What are the things in your life that make you feel great? That make you feel big, confident, happy, relaxed, powerful,..? This is your guidance too. Focus on those things, say yes to them in your life. So claiming your power isn't about trying to change what is in your life to make you feel better, it's not about taking those things that make you feel bad & pretending they make you feel good, it's not about fighting for the world to be a place that will make you feel better. It's just about choosing what does make you feel better. It's about choosing what allows your energy to grow. What can you let go of today that diminishes your energy? Tell us in the comments!  I'm Claire Louise Hay, I help you claim your true power to manifest the life of your dreams through self-awareness and alignment with your higher self.
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