Saying no to what you don't want doesn't always attract more of what you don't want
You've heard about the law of attraction right? It has the power to totally transform your life from mundane to magical once you understand that your thoughts & energy creates.
But there is also a lot of mis-information out there, or information that can be taken the wrong way.
I used to be confused about my negative feelings, about what to do with them, about HOW to use them as feedback. Do I ignore the feelings so that I don't attract more of what is making me feel bad? Do I let bad feelings pass me by? Do I ignore what is causing these bad feelings & pretend I don't see them? If I act on these feelings to remove it from my life, am I just inviting more of what makes me feel bad in? If I'm experiencing contrast am I doing something wrong? Am I wrong?
There are thoughts within us that give us negative feelings & there are things, people, places, etc. outside of us that give us negative feelings.
When it is our own thoughts or projections that are giving us these negative feelings then that is a sure sign that our higher selves don't agree with us & a change in our thoughts to aligned thoughts will make us feel better.
But when it is something outside of ourselves that is making us feel bad, is that bad feeling an emotional reaction that will attract more of what we don't want, or is it important feedback to take action to get rid of it from our lives?
Let's look at this example:
Mary doesn't like it when people are rude to her or even if she sees someone being rude to someone else. It drives her crazy. On Monday she was busy at work when someone came into the shop & after just a short wait they started complaining to her that she hadn't helped them yet. She was really busy & had even speeded up what she was doing so that she could help them sooner, but now she felt like stopping what she was doing & making them wait even longer. She pushed her feelings down & told them she wouldn't be much longer & she helped them as soon as she could. In her break later she complained with her colleagues about rude entitled people & how they are the worst part of the job.
Will Mary keep attracting rude impatient people in this example?
Yes she will. She didn't feel the negative emotion that she was feeling & use it to act upon it, to either make a new decision as to whether she really wants to work there, or to tell the customer that she isn't able to give instant service because she has other things to do first but maybe there is somewhere else that can give instant service, or to tell them that she cannot help them & to know for sure that she doesn't need inpatient rude customers because she prefers patient, appreciative customers instead. Instead she prioritised the customers negative feelings instead of her own negative feelings & she took the blow of it.
Subtle changes in the way we deal with things makes all the difference. But let's make it simple & talk about rotting fruit instead.
If there is some rotting fruit in your fruit bowl, should you:
a. Ignore it or you might attract more rotten fruit into your life then wonder what you did wrong when all of your fruit becomes rotten, maybe you didn't ignore it perfectly enough?
b. Look at the rotten fruit, pretend that it isn't rotten, affirm that it is fresh & meditate?
c. Throw the rotten fruit out before it makes the other fruit rotten because you prefer fresh fruit & you want to enjoy the fruit that is good?
Now it's simple. The answer is c.
But but but... that's an action step & law of attraction says that I created it! No. Rotting fruit exists. Think of it as contrast. It's ok for rotting fruit to exist. All fruit rots when it is left long enough. You might even let it inspire you to eat your fruit more quickly, or to buy less of it in future.
The truth is that if you don't feel your negative emotions & act on them in the moment, you'll end up with all of your fruit rotting because when you leave a piece of rotting fruit it will infect the rest of the fruit bowl.
But then don't go around telling all of your friends the story about your rotting fruit, asking them if their fruit also rots, joining a protest group about rotting fruit & dedicating your life to the elimination of rotten fruit, because that WILL attract more!
Have you been ignoring the rotting fruit in your life?
How has that been affecting the rest of your life?
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