What happens when you don't put yourself first

How many of these messages have you heard throughout your life?

Giving is better than receiving. Be of service & you will receive what you want back. Give to others what you want to receive for yourself. Put others first & yourself last.

To quote Dr Phil "How's that working for you?"

It didn't work for me, I didn't receive what I wanted by doing that. I continuously attracted people who wanted to take from me, people who would never give back to me. Nobody else seemed to put me first whilst I was putting them first.

The problem with putting other people first is you teach them that you come second,... or last.

​Another problem with putting other people first is that you are cutting yourself off from your guidance system. In order to be attuned to your guidance system you need to put your feelings first. You can't put others feelings first because you don't know what their feelings are, you can't feel for them. You can guess their feelings but it is always a guess through your own personal filters & unique combination of life experiences & baggage. Your own feelings, however, tell you exactly how aligned you are in your life with the path that you really want to be on. Feel bad then you are not in alignment with what you want. Feel good then you are in alignment with what you want.

Often when we put other's feelings first we miss the mark. They didn't ask us to put them first & didn't ask for the sacrifice (our own needs) that we made for what we thought they might want.

Putting other's first is a big judgment that they can't access their guidance system, they can't look after themselves & they need some kind of help from someone who is better than them. Not so helpful.

You're in a unique position to feel your own feelings, you know yourself better than anyone, you know what your needs & desires are. You are the only one with the creative power to have your needs & desires met. Nobody else can do that for you & you can't do it for anyone else. 

So how about we all concern ourselves with ourselves? Put our own feelings, needs & desires first. Help someone else out when they ask for help & ask for help from others when we need it.

We could also forgive others for not having been able to guess what we wanted & create that for us. We can forgive ourselves for having tried the impossible task of creating in someone else's life, too.

​I'm Claire Louise Hay, I help you claim your true power to manifest the life of your dreams through self-awareness and alignment with your higher self.

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