If you are constantly being disappointed by the way that people treat you, if you are constantly let down by people, if you think that if other people would just BE better to everyone then you would feel better, this blog is for you!
How others treat you is totally up to you
We not only attract out of others whatever matches how we feel about ourselves, but we also can't help but reflect back to others how they feel about themselves, too.
This means that how others treat you is totally up to you.
Your ego might want to tell you that you're the victim & that everyone else is the problem, but ask try this:
Name one person that you really respect & value
Now imagine being with that person & being rude to them, disrespecting them, undervaluing them & criticising them.
Hard to imagine isn't it? In fact it's hard to imagine anybody doing that to them, because these people have a self-respect, self-worth & self-confidence that always attracts its mirror from others.
Don't wait for someone else to tell you your value
People can only reflect back to you how you have been feeling about yourself. Wait for someone else to value you & you will wait forever, because nothing will change. Everything you attract is a reflection of your past self. You have the power, you can change your future by valuing yourself now. It starts from the inside (as with everything in life).
Imagine you are the person who everyone respects & values
Who would you have to BE in order to be that person?
How would you feel about yourself?
How would you be around other people?
The truth is that these feelings of self-respect, self-worth & self-confidence come from actions that are taken in daily life that respect, value & appreciate yourSELF.
So rather than waiting to feel self-respect before you will start to respect yourself, start doing things to respect yourself.
You might have always put others needs or wishes before your own, putting yourself at the back of the line. You might start to put your needs first, putting yourself at the front of the line & then look after others if they ask you to. In other words, putting your oxygen mask on first.
You might have been giving to others even though you feel depleted. You might want to only give to others when you feel like you have plenty to give, so first give to yourself & do the things that fill you up.
You might have been upset when others criticise you & tried to argue with them to defend yourself. You might want to tell those who criticise you "That hurts me, why are you trying to make me feel bad about myself?" then choose to be around those who appreciate you instead.
You might have accepted all kinds of bad behaviour from others that makes you feel bad. You might want to say "No" & walk away from them.
You might have accepted the crumbs from others, been hyper grateful when anyone does the slightest thing for you, when someone gives you a little attention, when someone gives back at all, when someone says one nice thing to you in the middle of criticising you. You might want to decide that you will only accept the best from others & start giving yourself the best. You might want to learn to ignore others unless they are truly loving you how you deserve to be loved, treating you how you deserve to be treated, respected how you deserve to be respected, valued how you deserve to be valued,...
Take a step back
Only those who have self-worth, self-respect & self-confidence can really give to others. So don't try to prise it out of those who don't have it to give (that includes yourself). You might have to be alone for a while, until you start to attract those who CAN give you the level that you deserve, let that be ok. It's worth it, believe me.
If in doubt, step back. If you're not sure if someone is treating you how you deserve to be treated, don't retaliate, don't argue, don't respond at all, just take a step back. If you're not sure if someone is able to give you the love, respect, value & appreciation that you deserve, take a step back. Give yourself this space to decide for yourself if this is good enough for you. Give them the space to think if they really want to have you in their lives & how they might treat you differently if they decide that they do. That goes for friends, family, colleagues, bosses, partners, clients,.. it goes for everyone.
What & who can you take a step back from?
Share in the comments below, who can you take a step back from?
What situations aren't the best for you that you can take a step back from?
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