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Creating Soul Mate Love

5/6/2011

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There are 2 types of romantic relationships: Lesson relationships and Soul Mate relationships.

Lesson relationships come into your life to teach you something. You attract them into your life to match your energy at that time. Your match comes in for you to teach them the lesson that they need, and for them to teach you the lesson that you need.
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These relationships are supposed to come and go. They are generally of short duration 1-7 years. Although many people try to hold onto these relationships for longer and they try to make them work. Many people make the mistake of marrying a lesson relationship. This happens because the lesson is so familiar to us. It feels like home because it has generally come from repeating our parent’s lessons. We feel safe in this relationship, even if the relationship is not particularly safe for us. It feels like love because the lesson has been connected with our idea of love in the past. But this isn’t true love, yet it is a love lesson. It’s our role in these relationships to learn from them and understand what true love is from them. They are our guides to show us where our relationship issues lie. They are stepping stones to finding the soul mate relationship.

Lesson relationships are supposed to last for the duration of the lesson and then be released. As you grow emotionally and spiritually in life you will grow in different directions from these partners. This is because you have opposite lessons to learn in a lesson relationship. So when the learning is underway or completed they will no longer match you, they will oppose you. There was only ever a mismatch in the first place, but the right mismatch for you both at that time so that you could learn from each other.

Lesson relationships are never wasted relationships. They take you one step closer to your soul mate relationship. Even if you decided not to learn the lesson in that relationship and then recreate the same issue in the following relationships 10 times over, they are still not wasted, because they are showing you this aspect of yourself. The more ingrained the issue is the more examples you might need to be shown. Just as you might think you have dealt with a lesson and healed it, you might find that it comes up again with a different face on it, or in a slightly different way, so that you can fully practise you learning. Each lesson relationship is a gift.

Lesson relationships are never failures.

Soul Mate relationships, however, are our spirit’s match. These are the relationships that we attract when we have finished our lesson relationships. This is the partner who not only matches us perfectly but who is also going in the same spiritual direction as us too. This is the partner that we are not going to grow apart from. This is the partner whose hand we will be holding when we are old and grey. The honeymoon phase doesn’t exist in Soul Mate relationships it goes on forever. There are no lessons in this relationship. There are no challenges in this relationship.


There are no compromises in this relationship. There is no working at this relationship. This is the relationship that is perfect for us in every way. This is the person who will love everything about us, the beauty, the flaws, our light and our dark side. This is the person that we will love completely too, their beauty, their flaws, their light and their dark sides. This is the one that we have unconditional love with. There is no “putting up”with anything in this relationship. It’s smooth sailing. This is the relationship that gives us full support. This is the relationship that we can completely relax in. This is the partner that will love our authentic selves. We don’t need to be on our guard at all with this person.  This is the partner that will not try to change us in any way. This is the partner that we will not want to change in any way. This is the partner that we will want to love and support.
This is the relationship that is balanced between giving and receiving. This is the relationship where you agree on the important things. This is the relationship where you can read each other’s minds because you share the same mind. In this relationship you will find you have so many things in common. In this relationship you have shared so many similar experiences in the past, you have been travelling along parallel paths learning similar lessons in your relationship journey to find each other. In this relationship you can trust fully, there is no jealousy. This person will have all the things that you want in a partner plus all the things that you never even thought that you’d want in a partner. They are THE ONE for you. Perfect in every way for you.

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9 Comments
Bart
11/6/2011 03:45:56 pm

this is the most beautiful thing ever written about true love... wow Claire, you're so good with words!

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Claire Louise Hay link
21/7/2013 10:38:53 am

Thank you Bart =)

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Lisa link
2/8/2011 03:02:11 am

What u have written here speaks to me on so many levels. We have all suffered from trying to hold onto the "lesson" in our life when this person truly no longer served our happiness. Thank you so much for sharing!

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Claire Louise Hay link
21/7/2013 10:38:29 am

You're welcome Lisa,

Letting go is so often the key to moving forward in so many things in life.

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Johoanna link
9/8/2011 11:53:28 pm

Oh my, this explains sooo much. This is where I'm now at. My inner being, my whole self, is now yearning for my soul mate. Thank you so much. Namaste.

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Claire Louise Hay link
21/7/2013 10:37:46 am

You're welcome Johanna,

Did you find your soul mate yet?

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sonia
26/9/2011 05:39:12 am

Excellent...v. true..but what if for one person the other is soulmate and for other the first one is a lesson ....can that happen ? pl clarify

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Claire Louise Hay link
27/9/2011 01:18:50 am

Hi Sonia,

That is not possible. The law of attraction states that you always always attract like-energy towards you. Which means that it's either a Soul Mate relationship for both, or a lesson relationship for both.

Claire Louise Hay

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9/4/2025 06:25:38 pm

I find it fascinating how these different types of relationships serve distinct purposes.

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