You are the average of the people that you are around the most. If you are the brightest, shiniest, richest, most ambitious, most motivated person in your posse, you need a new posse, one that will stretch you and keep you growing. When you feel insecure about yourself, when you have self-doubt, it can feel much more comfortable to keep the top dog position, so that you are never stretched, but you will remain stagnant and stunt your growth. Life IS growth. I realised that when I moved to Byron Bay, 10 years ago, I had a good amount of savings in the bank. I had quit my corporate job 2 years prior and had used some savings to fund myself whilst I did volunteer work for charities, but I still had plenty of money left. I had sold my (most favourite techno blue VW New Beetle) car in the UK because I could buy a new New Beetle for the same amount as it would cost me to ship my 2 year old car over to Australia. I had a plan! I was going to get my car and set up my business with my savings. Then I arrived in Byron Bay. Coming from extreme abuse, moving to the other side of the world, what I wanted most was a new family, a new community. What I found when I arrived here was a loving, supportive, nurturing, spiritual community which was perfect for me. But as in everything in the world there was balance, there was the flip side, the drawbacks of this community. There was (and is) a lack consciousness here that seems to touch everyone in the community. I wanted to fit in, so I couldn't get my new car because I would have been outshining my new community. Instead I made a conscious decision to match them and spent all of my savings until I had $0 in my bank. It took me 2 years of partying to do it. It was great fun. Now I wasn't outshining anyone. The thing is: they didn't love me for it - some loved me, some hated me and everyone else was in between. It didn't matter whether I had $0 in the bank or savings at all. This weekend, whilst having a garage sale and getting to see all the various shades of lack walking down my driveway, I realised that I have been carrying on this pattern of not outshining or out-earning everyone else around here - even while I hid away at home working exclusively online. I've been hiding my light under a bushel, whatever that is. I hadn't reversed that decision that I had made and forgiven myself for making it. The ever loving universe has been showing me a different story. Over the last few years I have improved myself, learned, grown, so much so that if I was still in my corporate job I'd be a millionaire by now and if I had been welcoming money as an entrepreneur I'd probably be a billionaire by now! The universe has shown me my worth through my lifestyle, through the houses that the universe has gifted me to rent, through various upgrades in my life. I would only allow certain upgrades to be given to me, only the upgrades that I could hide from my community. Upgrades to my living conditions, but not to my clothes. Upgrades to my working environment but not to my bank account. You are the average of the people that you hang out with. Byron Bay is falling apart, not being maintained, there is an overwhelming lack mentality here and it has been consuming everything, including my business! It's time for me to leave, but as I have previously said, I'm not just leaving this house, I'm not just leaving Byron, I'm leaving all of the beliefs and energies that have had me holding money away from myself since I have lived here. I don't regret my time living here. Byron Bay was the supportive nurturing place that I needed to call home whilst I had a massive amount of self-healing to do. I have changed my life whilst living here. It will always feel like one of my world homes. Now I'm ready for the money to go with it! It isn't just about the money, it's about doing what I do in a big way. It's about being able to reach and help many people. It's not possible when I won't accept the return energy back to myself: I know, I've tried long enough! I'm ready to live large and super size my business. Even if I hold on to "it's not safe to outshine those around me" patterns, I will still be around millionaires in my new place, so that gives me plenty of room for growth. But I don't intend on keeping those patterns, I'm leaving them behind in this house, in this town. Not only is it safe for me to outshine my family, friends, partner and neighbours, it's also safe to outshine Tony Robbins and Oprah! It's safe for you to outshine Oprah, too! The best thing is that once I made this breakthrough, yesterday, I set a new grand goal. This morning I woke up just before the sun with a new and exciting business plan in my mind. I know exactly how I can achieve this goal now, and the best thing is, I already have everything I need within me and already prepared to be able to do it. How have you been holding yourself back? Who do you stay around to feel comfortable instead of stretching yourself? Are you ready to set a new grand goal? I'm Claire Louise Hay, I help you claim your true power to manifest the life of your dreams through self-awareness and alignment with your higher self. Want to work with me? Click here to find out how!
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There is a time for being alone, and a time for getting support from others. We are vibrational beings. We cannot separate ourselves from the everything, source. We will always try to match all of the vibrations around us, because alignment feels good and difference feels bad. This means that we are affected significantly by the people around us, whether we like it or not. We are creator spirits. Our energy creates our every life experience. This means that our energy, our vibration, is key to what we create in our life experiences, and what we don't manage to create. This causes a conflict when we want to grow, when we want to reach for a better experience in our lives. To be able to grow, to experience something new, we are required to break free of our old vibration, which also means breaking free of alignment with everyone else that is around us. This can be painful to do, because it feels bad to break rank, it feels bad to break from the tribe and what they are all doing. However, our spirits drive us forward in constant growth so that we cannot ignore this urge to experience more, better than we have previously experienced. To make this process easier on ourselves requires us to know when to be around others, when and what to share with others, and when to retreat and keep things to ourselves. I wish to help you out with this process. When you want to grow, or experience something more than you already have: DON'T Argue with those around you who aren't wishing for the same change. Talk to people around you what you are doing, they will not understand. Spend a lot of time around those who are not making this same change. Look for anyone or anything else to tell you that what you are doing is right. Seek answers or solutions from those who haven't already made that same change. DO Make friends with those who already have what you want to have. Share what you want with those who have made that same change and who have achieved it. Spend more time alone getting comfortable with the change within your own mind. Be your own validation that this is right for you because you want it. Seek answers and solutions from those who have already made the change that you want. Your energy, your vibration, is all you really have and it is the only thing that creates your life experiences. Take care of it. Be more selective with whom you share your energy with, and whom you receive energy from. I'm Claire Louise Hay, I help you claim your true power to manifest the life of your dreams through self-awareness and alignment with your higher self. Want to work with me? Click here to find out how! I never thought that I would disagree with the Dalai Lama, but alas, I do and here is why... The Dalai Lama is quoted as saying "The planet does not need more successful people. The planet desperately needs more peacemakers, healers, restorers, storytellers and lovers of all kinds." A few years ago I would have agreed with him and probably shared in on Facebook as many unsuccessful peacemakers, healers, restorers, storytellers and lovers of all kinds are sharing it right now. I was unsuccessful then and frustrated at my lack of success. Since then I have learned better. I know a higher truth than this. Success is not the opposite to love. Success is not mutually exclusive to all of those things quoted by the Dalai Lama. Failure is the opposite to success. When you agree with the Dalai Lama's sentiments on this you are actively holding success away from you, demonising it or thinking that it is exclusive to all of the things that you agree with and are passionate about. This belief will hold success away from you as it held my success from me for many years. Nobody really wants to be a failure. If something is worth doing, it's worth doing successfully. Do we really want more failed peacemakers, failed healers, failed restorers, failed storytellers, and failed lovers on the planet? No, not at all. We all actually want more successful peacemakers, successful healers, successful restorers, successful storytellers and successful lovers, but many of us repel our own success by our misaligned beliefs. On my own personal journey to success I learned that the path to success requires great inner work, it requires considerable feats of alignment with your higher self. If you really want to achieve something in the world, if you really want to leave your mark and increase the vibration of the world, you are required to embrace success. Here are 4 steps to success to get you started: Firstly, you must have an obsessive passion for what you want to achieve in order to even get close to achieving it. Without complete passion you will not have the motivation necessary to achieve it. Secondly, you must persist with that passion, through the many obstacles and challenges, learning the lessons that they bring and add what you learned to your energy, your thoughts, your beliefs and your actions on a consistent basis. You need to persist with your mission through all of the failures that you will encounter, learning how your energy, your thoughts, beliefs and actions are preventing the success that you desire and actioning what you learn from it every day consistently. You must never give up on your vision. Thirdly, you must always aim for success, embrace success and be happy for successful people no matter what their particular passion is - no matter whether you agree with their passion or not - their achievement is one of alignment with their higher self and is a high spiritual state. Once you get on your own path of success you will learn to appreciate anyone who has achieved success, because you will understand just how much inner work it takes to get there. You will be able to accept others' passions and not judge what they are doing, but appreciate that they managed to achieve and be successful in anything that they are passionate about. And fourthly, many people will disagree with your passion, they will think you are wrong to want success, they will think your passion is wrong, evil, or unneeded. People will criticise you, they will demonise your success - everyone has a unique point of view and unique passions, we need that variety in the world. You will need to carry on regardless, accepting that their point of view is their valid point of view but knowing that it makes no difference to you, because you are clear on your passion, you are clear on what you want to achieve and nobody, NOBODY, is going to stop you. With these 4 steps in place in your everyday life you will achieve success, if you have chosen to pursue success in whatever you do. Everyone else will continue to fail and that is ok, it is their choice and it is also required on this planet too. Without failure there would be no success. I would love the Dalai Lama to be successful in his passions, but if he believes the sentiment above then he won't be successful, because he is not aligned with it. I'd love to mentor him to success, but I doubt whether he actually said those words at all. I would love you to be successful with your passion. I'm Claire Louise Hay, I help you claim your true power to manifest the life of your dreams through self-awareness and alignment with your higher self. Want to work with me? Click here to find out how! |
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