Claire Louise Hay shares her teachings, best life tips, and personal stories.

Why you are not taking care of yourself as you should

26/11/2018

It was a celebration, smoke filled the room, everyone was drunk, apart from me, I was a small child. My uncle was blowing smoke rings & I was catching them by poking my finger through them "I'll blow smoke rings when I'm a grown up, this is fun!"

The adults had stopped making fun of my shyness, they'd stopped laughing at my body, they'd stopped trying to get me to admit that I fancied my cousin, I didn't even know what that meant anyway.

The ordeal upstairs had also stopped. I had been molested by the boys, each taking turns to get into bed with me to touch me. My brother being both the ringleader & the first.

This was not a safe situation. I was not cared for.

This was an abusive situation, the only reality that I knew.

Once I was old enough to take care of myself I removed myself from this abuse, or so I had thought.

The truth was I was taking care of myself to the almost the same low levels. At age 47 I was still around alcoholics, I was still being made fun of, I was still being yelled at & put down by people who were pretending to love me, I was still around people who made me feel unsafe, I was still in that smoky atmosphere pretending that I was having fun.

It was a shock to wake up to the fact that I was neglecting myself, that I wasn't caring for myself, that I wasn't protecting myself, that I wasn't choosing good situations for myself, still.

So I took action, I removed myself from the toxicity. I started to take good care of myself, to be the parent for myself that I wish I had had.

The ways in which I find easy to take care of myself, my diet, exercise, they were all ways in which I was taken care of as a child. That has come "naturally" to me as a result of my childhood programming. It's the destructive programming that has to go.

Deciding on new boundaries & taking action on them, stepping away from what is not good for me is where I am at. The void. I know that the next step will come naturally when I am ready, when I am re-programmed, the stepping toward what IS good for me.

Everyday I'm meditating, I'm exercising, I'm eating healthily, I'm working, I'm reading, I'm going to bed early. I'm focused on the basics, the foundations of good self-care, focused on what I can do positively for myself. I'll let you know when the next step comes along.

Are you still caring for yourself in the same way, negative & positive, that you were cared for as a child?

Do you need to start to take care of yourself better?

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The manifestation power of writing stuff down

1/11/2018

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My morning routine doesn't stay the same, but it always has similar components to it depending on how I feel when I wake up. This morning this is exactly what I did:

I woke up & went for a pee.
It was 6am, I was still tired, so I put a guided meditation on my phone & went back to bed.
An hour & a half later I made myself a coffee & I took the writing pad out of my bedside drawer.
I wrote down my goals for the day, some goals for the month & some general things that I wanted to manifest.
I listened to a 30 minute hypnosis, because my previous meditation had felt more like lie-in laziness, & I wanted to empower what I had just written down with my good vibes.
I took a shower, put my bikini on, grabbed a banana & rode my bicycle down to a local juice bar for a fresh juice.
After my juice I went to the pool, took this photo, had a swim, ate my banana, sunbathed during which I got 3 ideas of action to take toward those goals I had written down.
I came back home, hung my bikini out to dry & got to work.
This blog was one of the 3rd of those ideas, I already acted on the others., it's 11:33am right now.

I feel amazing! This morning's routine is heavier than usual on the guided meditations, it doesn't involve as much exercise as usual because I'm recovering from yesterday evening's Muay Thai training, I will work out later today, it is focused on my work goals because I feel like working today.

Some days I wake up & I feel energetic, my body wants to move & so I will do a shorter meditation, write down my goals & desires, throw my workout gear on & head to the gym. Usually while I'm on the treadmill I'll get the ideas for the actions to take that day, when I am fully in my body & not in my head.

Whatever happens, however I feel, I try to write down what I want every morning. If I let this slip, my results stop happening. The rest is self-care, listening to my body, mind & soul. That self-care is important to fire up my energy to get those results that I have asked for, it's important because it makes me feel great, it makes me feel empowered, it makes me feel in control of my day, I get to be the director of my day!

I have a pad that I can tear yesterdays page out of, I acknowledge what I achieved the day before then I scrunch it up & throw it in the bin. On my fresh page I write down is the number of customers that I want that day dependent on my energy levels & how I feel, & I write Thank you universe!

If I have asked for 8 customers say, then I will write 1 to 8 in circles below, the after the number 8 write a star (this is for an extra celebration if I surpass my goals). Throughout the day I tick off the circled number, one by one & give thanks for them.

Next I write down what I want to accomplish this month financially, again I write down the figure, sometimes 3 times, then I write Thank you universe! in order to surrender & hand my request over, rather than try to do it myself.

Then I write down things that I want that haven't manifested yet, things like a new phone, an equal romantic partner, the number of new leads I want on my mailing list, fitness goals (I constantly challenge my body to being healthier, stronger, faster, better,... it's fun for me) I always write Thank you universe! after each request

I don't think too much about it, I don't spend a lot of time doing it, in fact the less time I spend on it the better, because writing it down is about surrender & letting it go. It's a shopping list for the day from the universe, I don't need to memorise it, keep thinking about it, I have handed it over & can trust the universe to pop ideas into my head for the actions to take to make it all happen.

Do you have write your goals down daily?
Do you want to try it?

Share in the comments below what your morning practice is & how it helps you

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Daily Habits To Manifest Your Intentions

18/10/2018

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What bad habit do you want to stop?

Today I decided that I want to stop spending so much time inside in my air conditioning & get outside more. I have a very active life, working out almost every day, riding around my tropical island on my bicycle, going to the pool for a swim, but even so, the majority of my time is spent in my room in my air con, working, reading, listening to podcasts, meditating, watching movies, etc. So this morning I went for a beach walk after my daily fresh juice to kick start a new habit.

What good habit do you want to start?

Today I decided that I want to start writing a new blog twice a week. So guess what? Here I am, after my meditation, my fresh juice, my beach walk & breakfast, sat writing a new blog. And what better subject to write about than the thing that I am personally focused on today?

When I ask my customers these two questions the answers that usually come back are general such as "I want to stop feeling anxious. I want to start to be motivated"

I categories these as intentions rather than habits.

A general intention of wanting to stop feeling one way & to start feeling another way are great intentions. They plant the seeds within you, they place an order with the universe that your higher self can lead you to. Then all that you need to do is to follow the clues, to read the books that you stumble across, to listen to that podcast that someone posted about, to become more self-aware of what is actually going on inside of you when you feel that feeling that you no longer want to feel, & to seek help from someone who has already achieved this so that you can easily achieve it too.

Intentions are great, but habits are a different beast all together.

Habits are a specific thing that you can do every day that will lead you to feeling a certain way, that will improve your life in some way, that will put you on the course that you really want. Habits show the universe that you intend to do something about your intentions!

Your intentions can be general, but if you make your habits specific you will be on a fast track, an upward spiral, to achieving those intentions.

So let's get specific! Answer these questions in the comments below & let's do this together.

What bad habit do you want to stop?
What good habit do you want to start?

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Meditation Is Not The Remedy For Stress. Here's what is.

30/7/2018

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Most people react to life. In fact all of us have just reacted to life until we learn that we have the power to create our lives.

Reacting to life is a state in which things happen to you, people say things that upset you, you get sick, you get behind on car payments,... & you patch yourself up as best as possible. You are in a state of constantly fighting fires, of reacting to the unwanted that has happened.

This state of fighting fires is usually the ONLY time when people seek help, it's when they are sick, or they have a big problem, or when they have hit rock bottom, or when their partner leaves them,... They either cry out for help to the universe or they try to meditate, get readings, pray, say affirmations to try to put this fire out.

They do the things that are sacred when they are in the worst state possible & although this does somewhat help, it is far more powerful when done at other times.

Imagine your favourite 3 course meal ever, maybe it's a fine dining meal, with all of your favourite foods in it, served in your favourite place in the world,... Now imagine being really hungry one day on the way home from work, when you are in a rush because you have to get the kids to soccer practice & you quickly throw that best meal ever down. You wouldn't do it would you? You'd take that meal when you were feeling good, when you were calm, when you had plenty of time, you would get dressed up for it, you would invite your favourite people & you would honour & respect it giving it the time & presence deserved. So although that 3 course fine dining meal would somewhat help in that situation, it's not the right time for it at all.

One of my biggest secrets:
For the last 18 years I have ALWAYS done my spiritual practice, not just on the bad days, but on the good days. I've done readings for myself not just when there is a problem but when I am excited to move to the next step. I've meditated not just when I'm overwhelmed with an active mind, but when I'm feeling calm & awesome. I've used affirmations not when I feel terrible about myself, but when I'm feeling great & working out in the gym.

In fact these things, meditation, readings, affirmations - or any spiritual work, is WAY more powerful when you are feeling great. Then you can really move forward fast to the life that you want & that's when the magic happens.

When you are in a stressed state, reacting to life, the best thing to do is to take action. Stress fills our bodies with fight or flight chemicals, these need an outlet in action, whether that is exercise, cleaning the kitchen, going for a walk,... It requires action to disperse these chemicals coursing through our veins that are making us stressed. Meditation at these times is like ordering bed rest to someone who has drunk so much coffee they are buzzing, it's the wrong course of action to take.

So I challenge you to stop fighting fires, to respond correctly to stress with action & to always do your spiritual practice when you feel good, maybe first thing in the morning writing down those goals even when your goals are manifesting & have manifested, meditating in the morning before you start your day to get those awesome intuitive hits of what to do & where to go for the magic to happen, using self-love affirmations in the shower or while you exercise to take your good feeling even higher, getting readings when there's no problem to solve but you'd like for life to get even better! And start to respond to stress with action, like a duck having an altercation with another duck, it will flap it's wings & use up that stressful energy before going about its usual calm duck business, go for a walk, exercise, clean out the cupboards, mow the lawn,..

Share in the comments below what you will do differently

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Why you are not taking care of yourself as you should

The manifestation power of writing stuff down

Daily Habits To Manifest Your Intentions

Meditation Is Not The Remedy For Stress. Here's what is.

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