Imposing rules on others based on your judgments is kind of an asshole thing to do, so then why do I do it to myself?
For many years now I've had a personal rule to not have sex with anyone younger than my eldest child. The thing is I keep breaking that rule! It's not my fault: I look nowhere near my age, I feel nowhere near my age, I act nowhere near my age, they are attracted to me, I'm attracted to them, I ask their age & then say "Yes, of course you are!" & do them anyway.
And why does the universe keep sending me the men that cause me to break my own rule?
Judge nothing, love everything!
The answer is that universe has wiser rules than me. It knows that nothing is to be judged, everything is to be not just accepted but also loved.
This must be why, a few months ago when I declared to friends "I'm not in any rush to get into a relationship" within a few short hours I was in a new relationship. That's the universe saying "Is that right Claire?" whilst sticking it's tongue out, holding one finger up in the air & walking away from me being its true expansive limitless self.
Judge nothing, love everything: as soon as you break that rule, the universe steps in to show you better. As soon as you break that rule, you step in to show yourself better.
Maybe, just maybe, if we were to drop all of our self-imposed rules & declarations, we could actually have what we want & what's best for us. What do you think? I think it's worth a go! & I'll go first.
I've dropped most of my food rules already & eat what I feel like eating, now I generally make healthy food choices because there is no longer any need for me to break my own rules. It's easy to make good choices here in Thailand because the food is my favourite.
I'm still totally judging myself on drinking too much, & I don't think I have any rules about that, but if I have any deep down that I'm trying to ignore, I'm breaking them. It's great fun to break them, too.
I know from experience that when I drop the judgments & rules about something, that thing tends to settle into a easy pattern of joyfulness.
Rules about food, relationships, sex, drugs, rock & roll, money, morals, work, cleanliness, emotions, clothing... I'm not suggesting that we become assholes to other people, I'm suggesting that we actually stop being assholes when we drop our rules.
So I'm conducting an experiment. From this day forward I'm going to be super aware of all of my rules & I'm going to drop them all, yes, all of them. It's going to be fun, of that I'm sure & I'll laugh at myself, because it will be funny. I'll report back soon letting you know what happened.
What rules have you set yourself that you keep breaking? What are you judging that you could be loving? Would you like to join me in my experiment?
Comment below & share your experiences as you go along!