William Shakespeare wrote
"This above all: to thine own self be true"
Yesterday I began to understand this at a much deeper level than I ever have before.
2 nights ago I had a dream. The dream wasn't particularly eventful, it was set in a place that was a mixture of many places in which I have lived. I was with my partner and we were doing very mundane things like going to buy a pie and getting my pie for free because it was my 10th on a loyalty card. As we walked back to my dream house, I had a sinking feeling, that someone was trying to spoil my fun. My ex-husband wasn't in this dream, but the feeling that I had was that he was waiting there and wanted to spoil my fun.
When I awakened I recounted the dream to my partner and how I had this uneasy feeling in the dream that my ex was there to spoil my fun. One of my many gifts is to be able to interpret dreams with the help of spirit guides, and so I know that this dream had in its essence something that was within me - that this feeling of unease was also in my waking consciousness.
Dreams bring to our attention something that is ready for release, so it was time to release this feeling. As with all self-healing, the first step is to completely own the issue and the feeling, it hadn't come from anywhere else, but from inside of me. The next step is to figure out why I feel this way. It's no secret that my ex didn't support me in my spiritual path and growing into my true self, in fact I have many people from my past who did not and do not support me, and that is ok.
We all incarnate into the conditions, around the people, that will give us the lessons that we want to learn. This gives us not only the chance to learn and grow from there, but also the burning desire to want better for ourselves.Therefore, as we learn and grow within ourselves it is right that we no longer energetically match those that are around us. As we let them go and move forward in life we attract those who are an energetic match to our new selves and the process starts all over again.
The hard part of this process is letting go and releasing.
Hands up who still wants family, ex's, people from their past to validate them, too?
Well they can't ever do that, because they are fully immersed in the issues that you have released yourself from, they are no longer an energetic match and therefore cannot validate something that they are not.
What's more: you chose them to give you those lessons because they are fully immersed and experiencing those issues. It is totally up to their higher selves whether on this life path they will grow, or just experience more of the same issues, to get a deeper understanding of them. Your path and their paths are valid and right.
My feeling of threat to my joy which I had pinned onto my ex-husband came from a feeling that his (or anyone else in my past's) opinion still mattered to me. There is nothing he can think or do that can affect me, even his attempts to control me through my children hasn't stopped me from being me and growing.
With this realisation I have been set free.
Not only are the opinions of those in my past irrelevant to who I am and the way I feel, but so are the opinions of my supporters and fans. Neither lack of support nor support, attack nor praise can shake who I am and the way I feel. Sure I prefer to receive praise, support and validation, and I can get that from those who are in alignment with me, but it's futile to try to get it from those who aren't in alignment with me.
To my own self I am true!
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