Have you ever noticed that you seem to take responsibility for everything?
Not just your own life.

Other people's feelings.
Other people's problems.
Other people's happiness.
Other people's healing.

You tell yourself you'll stop doing it.
You set boundaries.
You remind yourself that other adults are responsible for themselves.

And yet somehow, you find yourself carrying things that were never yours to carry.
Most people think this is a behaviour problem.
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I don't.
I think it's often a nervous system pattern.

The Hidden Pattern Started Long Ago

When a child grows up with emotionally available, emotionally responsible adults, they get to be a child.
They get to cry.
They get to make mistakes.
They get to feel scared.
They get to relax.
Their nervous system learns something very important:
"Someone has got this."

But if there isn't an emotionally responsible adult present, something different can happen.
Especially if the child is naturally empathic, sensitive and emotionally intelligent.

The child begins to notice what nobody else is noticing.
The tension.
The moods.
The unspoken emotions.
The problems that aren't being addressed.

And slowly, often without realising it, they step into a role that was never meant to be theirs.
They become the responsible one.

The Real Cost Isn't Just Emotional

Most people understand the emotional cost of this.
What they don't often see is the nervous system cost.

A nervous system develops through experience.
If your early experience taught you that nobody was fully holding the situation, your nervous system may never have learned what true relaxation feels like.

You never felt a genuine, embodied sense that:
"I don't have to hold everything together."

Instead, vigilance becomes normal.
Responsibility becomes normal.
Monitoring everyone else becomes normal.
Stress becomes normal.

What feels exhausting to someone else can feel completely familiar to you.
Because it became your baseline.

As you sow, so shall you reap.

Man can make their own rules for life as much as they like, saying that hate speech is allowed because of freedom of speech, but man cannot  circumvent the spiritual law of karma.

Think of this law of karma as the spiritual equivalent of Newton’s Law of Motion. “For every action there is an equal but opposite reaction.” When we create a negative force in thought, word, or action, the consequences of that negative energy comes to us, not to who it was directed at.

Words are not just a 3 dimensional way of communicating with each other and the only consequences of those words will be from whomever hears them and takes action on them. We might think we live in a 3 dimensional reality but we don't.

There is a power in words, every religion speaks of it, be it spells or prayer. Words said out loud hold a power that instructs reality. When we use positive words we gain blessings, this is good or light magic. When we use negative words we experience punishments, this is dark magic. What we speak out doesn't happen outside of us, it happens to us!

I have often talked of lessons, and I would have previously worded that last sentence as "​When we use negative words we experience lessons" But I don't want good people to think that their lessons in life are some kind of punishment, because they are not. We are all here to learn, but lessons are often not punishments.

I am currently writing my next book and there is a passage in it on the power of words. My guides were clear that there are punishments that are handed out to those who disobey the Lores, spiritual laws that have been repeated in every religion, such as love your neighbour as yourself.

These Lores are spoken of for a reason: it's a code to live by so that you gain blessings and so that you don't receive punishments - the consequences of your words and actions.

We very rarely see the correlation of results of the law of karma and the words that created it, because often negative words are concealed, only a few people hear them, the negativity stays at home, just for the family to hear. However, today we all get to see, read and hear what everyone is saying. As a result we can clearly see the law of karma taking place.

Wish harm on somebody with your thoughts, words and actions and that very same energy is sent back to you. It's a spiritual law. It's futile to spend time talking about how it shouldn't be so, and freedom of speech and all of that, but the universe will not change its laws, no matter how much you would like it to.

A good citizen is not somebody who breaks the laws of their country. A good Christian is not someone who breaks the laws of their religion. A good human being is not someone who breaks the laws of the universe.

We are ascending right now, the whole Earth, if you continue to think in a 3 dimensional way, as if we are all machines instead of the spiritual creator beings that we are, then you might get caught on the wrong side of the spiritual laws.

We are creator spiritual beings, our thoughts, words and actions create and if you look for it you will see much faster karma taking place as we ascend.

Be careful of your thoughts and your words, use them to create good in the world.

I'll get back to finishing writing this book now! It seems it is needed more than ever. Watch this space!