2 weeks ago Jarrod & I went to Brisbane for the day. We had so much fun & I never felt more in love & happy. Whilst we were there I kept seeing road signs flashing up "EXPECT CHANGE" & I got excited because I have been asking for big things. Exactly 1 week later I received the guidance that our relationship was over. Specifically that there was no more growth for either of us available in this relationship. I went into shock. I asked for confirmation. I did 1001 readings on it. It was confirmed over & over again. It was true. Jarrod taught me the art of emotional communication for which I will be eternally grateful. I summoned up all of my courage & I told him the guidance I was given. For the next 2 days we were both in denial. Jarrod seemed to forget what I had said. I wanted to ignore it & carry on in our wonderful lives together. I knew we needed to talk about it again so I summoned up all of my courage & we talked & we cried together. Jarrod said he had had the feeling 6 months ago that he was holding me back now & we needed to part ways, but he didn't trust that guidance. I had had no idea. The grief that lasted 2 days was centred around our attachment to each other. Our shared dreams that would be lost, Our mutual emotional support of each other. Our inspiration for each other. We realised that none of this would be lost. We would still be each others emotional support. We would still inspire each other. We would still achieve our dreams, only not together. We realised that we weren't losing our love for each other, but we were just transitioning the relationship into friendship. That eased our hearts. As I slowly detached from this relationship (we agreed to take it slow & as easy as possible for each other) I felt my self love rising up. I had gone into this relationship believing that Jarrod was my forever soul mate & I am glad that I did that. Because of that belief I put my whole heart & soul into the relationship & I would not change a thing, not in this relationship or my next. We are loving each other & letting each other go. It's actually much easier than holding onto a relationship until it turns to shit & then dumping it all & disconnecting completely. I know. That's what I used to do. That's what most people do. But you don't need to wait until relationships turn to shit. You don't need to wait until you hate them. You can act on the first inkling or guidance that it's over & you can let go. You do not need to justify the release to anyone else but each other, and 2 self aware people in a relationship will both know the truth in it. As I detached I realised just how much of myself I was putting aside in order to put our relationship first. It was time to reconnect to me. It was time to love all of myself including those parts I had placed on the shelf for this relationship. My heart expanded. I feel better about myself than I ever have. I am owning & loving every part of me without shame, guilt or apology. I am *so* grateful for the past 6 years together. They have truly been the best years of my life. I am excited that this ending means that there are even better times on the way. I realised that I have always been masculine in every relationship I ever had. I was taught that I had to be masculine to achieve anything good in this world as a child, so I became masculine like almost every other woman on this planet today. Many of you will know that it has been my focus since my mid 20's to find out what it is to be feminine, empowered feminine. There were no examples not in history nor around me. I looked far & wide. I only found women being masculine to achieve empowerment. So this journey needed to come from within me (as so many do). I have spent the last 2 years focused on changing my business so that I can be feminine in it & I have achieved that. Now it's time to do the same thing within my relationships. I connected in with what I really want from a relationship next, in order for me to grow. This is what I want & what I have never yet experienced: A man who is like me in many ways. He's creative, he's successful, he's accomplished, he's a leader in his field, he is abundant, he cares about the world, he wants to change the world for the better in a big way, he looks after himself, he exercises, he eats nutritious food, he has passion, he has drive, he has motivation, he takes the lead, he is not afraid to show the world who he is & to go for whatever he wants. A man who is my compliment. He's masculine, he is probably frustrated at being with masculine women & has decided he wants an empowered woman who inspires him but who can also be feminine & let him take the lead, he wants to be the protector & giver, he wants to be appreciated for every part of him & what he has accomplished. He wants a woman who will love him, guide him & be offer him the feminine support so that he can stand in his masculine power & focus on what he wants to accomplish. A man who will stretch me into learning how to receive & be taken care of. I see this dynamic very clearly & the kind of man that my soul mate is. & I'm ready, every single part of me is ready. I'm excited for my next life unfoldment. I'm a bit scared as to how receiving from a man will make me feel (vulnerable) but I want to feel that & work through it. This morning after my workout, swim & meditation, I had a song in my head "The Power of Love" specifically this part of it: 'Cause I am your lady and you are my man Whenever you reach for me, I'll do all that I can We're heading for something Somewhere I've never been, sometimes I am frightened But I'm ready to learn 'bout the power of love. I'm Claire Louise Hay, I help you claim your true power to manifest the life of your dreams through self-awareness and alignment with your higher self. Want to work with me? Click here to find out how!
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This happy chappy is called Masuru Emoto & his work rocks. He has been experimenting with water & words. He talks to water then freezes it & looks at its structure under a microscope. What he found was positive words make pretty ice crystals & negative words make ugly ice crystals. Considering we are watery beings these findings have great consequence for us. I saw this experiment he did with rice today & I want to explain how to use these principles to grow your finances because you can & it's easy! Here are 3 jars. Each contains rice & water. The jar on the left was told "I hate you" & you can see from this picture that it has turned brown & it starting to rot. The jar in the middle was told "I love you" & you can see from this picture that is has remained healthy & white. That putrified rotting mess on the right hand side was told nothing - it was completely ignored! These principles apply to water, to rice, to us, to everything in the world including your finances! Most people have finances like the jars on the left & right. Which is yours? If your finances are in the left jar you struggle with them, you do not like your finances, you are dissatisfied with them , you talk about how you don't have enough & so the universe continues to give you rotten finances. If your finances are in the jar on the right, you are so scared of your bills, your credit card debt, your rent, everything, that you stick your head in the sand & completely ignore your money. The universe continues to rot your finances & take them away from you as fast as it can. However, if you would like to have your finances in the healthy jar this is what you need to do: Love your finances right now just as they are. Even if you have $20 in the bank (I have been there, done this & it works!) give thanks that you have a roof over your head, that you somehow pay your bills, that you are in a financially stable country, that your finances are better, even if only slightly, than they were before. Love your finances right as they are. Really love them. Do not ignore them anymore, face them & love them. Your finances will flourish with this energy & you won't even need to do a thing, the universe has this one covered, it grows that which is loved & it will do it for every grain of rice & every single person including you! Enjoy your growing finances. I'm Claire Louise Hay, I help you claim your true power to manifest the life of your dreams through self-awareness and alignment with your higher self. Want to work with me? Click here to find out how! I was sat outside my favourite cafe waiting. I was waiting for my soul mate to show up & for a place to live in to show up. This is how I used to manifest, it was that easy, I could ask & sit in a cafe & just wait. A little dialog was going on in my mind "I'll sit here all day if I have to, so you'd better hurry up!" I knew exactly what I was waiting for, I knew what my soul mate would be like, I had written a list of all of his aspects about 3 months prior. I didn't know where I was moving to, but I knew that it would be good. He showed up that day, my soul mate, he asked me on a date, I said yes. He was everything I wanted & more. He asked what I was doing there, I gave him a shortened version "I'm waiting for someone to show up who will offer me somewhere to live because my housemate threw me out" He said "You can stay at mine" It was then that I remembered what I had asked for 2 months before, when I had moved into my last place. "Let my next move be in with my soul mate" Granted, all 3 requests, easy peasy. Within a few days I was completely in love & living with my soul mate. I was happy as can be & I wrote & published this book -->> I told the universe "Now I can help millions of people with my work" It replied "Not likely, you will not accept the abundance in return" I tried to manifest it anyway in the way that I had manifested everything in my life. It didn't work. I had to face my blocks to abundance, I had to heal myself. That was 2011. This is 2014. It took me 2 years of constant self-work & looking within to release my blocks to abundance. Firstly, I had to release the beliefs that I had picked up that had me only wanting a little. Then I had to begin to love abundance, money & wealthy people & release my judgments of them. Next I needed to heal the parts of me that thought that I only deserved a little. I needed to move away from the place I lived that was full of people who were like my old self & move to a place that is full of people who are like my new self. Next I had to heal the vows I had made to not receive because it had not been safe. Then I had to be firm in who I am, what I deserve & the truth of abundance in the universe. Finally I had to forgive myself for having all of that crap within me in the first place. Then it happened, I was reminded of how I used to manifest with ease. I was given the green light that I can go back to that old way of asking, waiting (sometimes patiently, sometimes not so much, but it not mattering either way) & it showing up. Manifestation is easy & instant. Until it isn't & that's when you have blocks that need to be healed before it becomes easy again. I'm living proof.
This weekend I had the biggest breakthrough of my life! If you have been following me for some time now you will know that I have been trying to understand receiving. In particular, I have been trying to understand why I can't allow myself to receive. A series of fortunate events laid out by my ever loving higher self & spiritual team led me to this breakthrough of a lifetime. Not only did I understand why I don't allow myself to receive but I learned why I have the caretaker role. Not only did I understand why some people or points of view trigger me into emotional reaction, but I also realised how to change it. What's more: it wasn't anything to do with my self-worth nor my work. I learned that in my 20's I copied my fathers paradigm around money (aggressive & controlling) & I disgusted myself by doing that. So I made a change, and followed my mothers paradigm around money instead (victim & justifying by giving). Because what I do and my patterns look absolutely nothing like what my mother patterns look like on the surface, I thought I was nothing like either of them. But I was following her paradigm after all. When I was a child I learned that asking for what I needed or wanted, whether it was love, nurturing, money, anything at all, resulted in violence and abuse. I learned to protect myself by never asking for anything, not allowing myself to receive & giving so much that I could justify the little that I received, hoping that this would protect me from the abuse. This made sense as a child: it protected me. It no longer makes any sense. I learned that I also took on a new paradigm from wounded spiritual people, I made them my new family & so took on their dysfunctional paradigms too. Spiritual people who are scared of money & power because they have similar dysfunctional roles from their parents. So I have been scared of speaking out about my true needs, desires & massive life purpose goals, for fear of being judged by these wounded spiritual people. I learned exactly why I had taken on the caretaker role & why it had absolutely nothing to do with my self-worth or lack thereof, and absolutely everything to do with protecting myself. Only this role no longer makes any sense, I don't need to protect myself any more, nor do I need to be scared of customers abusing me if I receive anything from them for my work. I am now free to decide how I want life to be, what I want to receive, what I want to do and my emotional protection limitations have been lifted. Since this breakthrough was so powerful for me I decided to take my partner Jarrod through the same process to see if it liberated him in the same way, this is what happened: Jarrod is an extremely talented artist, he knows his work is amazing but he doesn't receive any money for it. He has tried to make a business of his passion, but it never brings any money in. He also has fantastic people skills, he is an excellent manager of people, he knows this, what's more he has been reading all about Richard Branson and he realises that his people skills are up there with this billionaires. Yet Jarrod is in a job that pays him minimum wage. Employers tell him that he's overqualified yet he cannot ask for a pay increase. He has applied for higher paid jobs, knowing that he could provide great value in the job, but he gets turned down every time. He feels stuck. He doesn't understand why what he wants to do with his life isn't working for him, because what he wants to do will change the world for the better. I took Jarrod through the breakthrough process and through a series of guided processes here is what he found out: In his desperate attempt to not be like his father (controlling & judgmental around money) he took on the paradigm of his mother (victim & childish around money) - even though he thought that he wasn't being like either parents, even though he had made the conscious decision not to be like either, he was actually living the same paradigm as his mother, even though it had a different facade on it, even though it seemed he was doing something different, the same issue was underneath. He learned as a child that asking for the money that he needed or wanted led to not only a decline, but hurtful emotional consequences. He had felt worthless, hurt, angry, terrible about himself whenever he asked for anything from his father. He learned to protect himself by not asking for anything. He is still doing this even though it no longer makes any sense to. He accepts the minimum wage so that he is protected from the emotions that hurt him so much. He won't even allow anyone to give him any more money for fear of the emotional repercussions of asking. He learned that even though he disagreed with his father's disempowering opinion of him, he was complying with that opinion 100% and had been every single day of his life. Even though he thought he wasn't. Even though he thought he was doing something different to avoid it, he was actually complying with the paradigm he had been given 100% Knowing all of this was like a veil being lifted for him. Not only could he see clearly what he was doing and why, but he understands that the way he was trying to protect himself makes no sense anymore, it did when he was a child, but it doesn't now. Now he can make the decision of how he wants to be, of what he wants to do, knowing that he can receive exactly what he wants for it. This morning we went for a walk by the beach with a new found lightness of spirit, suddenly it feels like the world is our oyster & we can finally not only make the huge differences that we vision for the world, but we can also receive exactly what we want to whilst doing it. Watch out world, you're going to be blown away by what we are going to deliver! Are you fulfilling a dysfunctional role without realising it? Maybe you realise it but you're lost as to what you can do to heal it and change it? I'm Claire Louise Hay, I help you claim your true power to manifest the life of your dreams through self-awareness and alignment with your higher self. Want to work with me? Click here to find out how! The majority of the population of the planet learned from society not to value themselves. That's a big statement but one I firmly believe. Only we can change this within ourselves which in turn will change society because we are society. So how can we learn to value ourselves? Firstly by understanding why we aren't valuing ourselves. I see two scenarios in myself and in customers: 1. Negative self-talk Here's an example. My partner, Jarrod, is a genius. He writes and illustrates children's books. His work is amazing. Yet Jarrod doesn't feel that it's enough, that he's enough. He thinks that he needs to work a job to get an income, he thinks he needs to become a master marketer in order for his genius work to actually pay him, he thinks that his work is not enough, he thinks that he is not enough. He didn't have self-value modelled to him and therefore hasn't valued himself, which is a great shame for the world, because his work is genius. 2. Competition Here's an example. I didn't have self-value modelled to me as a child. I learned from family, school, society that I needed to prove myself, especially as a woman, I needed to do more than boys to prove myself. I needed to win the competition. So I pushed myself. I did all the things that boys did but better. I set goals and achieved them. But here's the thing: you can never win when you compete. You can be the best but this leads to disconnection with others, the 'I beat you' thing. However, we all want connection and winning isn't sustainable. I realised last week that I have been putting other people's financial situation above my own. Here is an scenario that frustrates me: Someone comes to me for help and says that they can't afford it, I help them anyway (after all I'm so blessed, I'm better than them, I have more than them, I have this gift, they need it, they deserve it more than me) for free or very cheaply. Then I see that they go on holiday - something that I haven't allowed myself due to not having the finances to do it. It frustrates me, not because I don't think they deserve it, the opposite, I know they deserve it and I wish I'd let myself have it, too. Can you see the problem here? Me. How I value myself. Competition leads to a feeling of being better than others, having more than others, having to give yourself away because you are more blessed than others. Yet it's not true. We all have our blessings. We all deserve those blessings. I learned this lesson when I did volunteer work in Africa. I felt that I was more blessed than them and so I went to help them out. I came back feeling arrogant, our lifestyle wasn't better than theirs at all, in fact there were many things that they had much better than us. They taught me more than I helped them. My positive self-talk and goal achieving has left me feeling that I owe everyone else and therefore I haven't truly valued myself. I know that my work is amazing, I only need to look at the lives that have been transformed from disempowered to magical and fulfilling to know that my work is amazing. I only need to look at my customers at the start of a breakthrough session when they are emotional, feeling bad, to them at the end of the session, happy, smiling, shining and excited. Yet I have been undermining myself by putting everyone else first, helping people for free or very cheaply, thinking that their need is greater than mine. Thank you to everyone who got my discounted readings in the last 2 weeks. I needed to feel that again. I appreciate your participation. I've been selling myself short. I've been in the bargain bin. Now I need to value myself, my time, my energy, my skills, my knowledge, my holidays, my car, my being,... Which way do you not value yourself? Negative self-talk or competition? I'm Claire Louise Hay, I help you claim your true power to manifest the life of your dreams through self-awareness and alignment with your higher self. Want to work with me? Click here to find out how! |
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