Some of my deepest self-worth issue patterns came up this week and soI'd like to talk about this.
Our life experiences are a reflection of the energy that we have within ourselves. Always.
When we have low self-worth we follow patterns of trying to increase that self-worth by being told we are worthy by others through trying to prove it to them. These attempts to prove it to them so that they will tell us we are worthy never work because nobody can reflect back to us what we are not.
Some of us take an independent stance. We become so independent that we don't even realise that we making others around us dependant on us. We take responsibility for everything. We provide for everyone. We do the work of 10 people and still they don't value us. Although this feels like independence it's not, independence is looking after yourself, not looking after yourself and 20 other people too. This is a pattern of care-taking others in the hope that they will value us so much that we believe it ourselves. It never works.
Some of us protest what others are doing or not doing because deep inside we feel bad about doing or not doing those things ourselves. We hope that if we can persuade everyone else to change that we will feel better about ourselves - feel worthy.
Some of us believe other peoples assessments of our own worthiness way too much. Even when we disagree with them, we take it on board deep inside. If someone has told us that we don't deserve something, we disagree on the face of it but then we think things like "I didn't want it anyway" "I shouldn't have wanted it" "What I have is better than that" Other people's assessments of our own worthiness is never about us and always about them and how they feel about themselves, yet we take it on board - especially from those we would like to receive love from.
Some of us keep ourselves on the outer, we detach ourselves from others so that we cannot be judged by them as unworthy. We feel different from them, feel like everyone else understands how to live life and knows their worthiness apart from me. We feel like an alien in our own world, instead of realising we are the world.
Personally I have tried all of these attempts to feel worthy, and many more, but none of them have worked because the only thing that will make you feel worthy is knowing and feeling this truth:
You are worthy just because you are a magnificent child of the universe.
The way that our higher selves see our worthiness can be best understood by us when we look at the energy of a queen.
A queen is worthy just because of who she is.
A queen is respected just because of who she is.
A queen receives from many just because of who she is.
It would be disrespectful for a queen to refuse to receive anything from anybody.
A queen can achieve great things through inspiring.
A queen has great self-worth, self-respect, self-confidence and it is mirrored back to her by the world.
Meditate on the energy of the queen within you. Let this energy become you. This is alignment with your higher self. This is self-worth.
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