You are the average of the people that you are around the most.
If you are the brightest, shiniest, richest, most ambitious, most motivated person in your posse, you need a new posse, one that will stretch you and keep you growing.
When you feel insecure about yourself, when you have self-doubt, it can feel much more comfortable to keep the top dog position, so that you are never stretched, but you will remain stagnant and stunt your growth. Life IS growth.
I realised that when I moved to Byron Bay, 10 years ago, I had a good amount of savings in the bank. I had quit my corporate job 2 years prior and had used some savings to fund myself whilst I did volunteer work for charities, but I still had plenty of money left. I had sold my (most favourite techno blue VW New Beetle) car in the UK because I could buy a new New Beetle for the same amount as it would cost me to ship my 2 year old car over to Australia. I had a plan! I was going to get my car and set up my business with my savings.
Then I arrived in Byron Bay. Coming from extreme abuse, moving to the other side of the world, what I wanted most was a new family, a new community. What I found when I arrived here was a loving, supportive, nurturing, spiritual community which was perfect for me. But as in everything in the world there was balance, there was the flip side, the drawbacks of this community. There was (and is) a lack consciousness here that seems to touch everyone in the community.
I wanted to fit in, so I couldn't get my new car because I would have been outshining my new community. Instead I made a conscious decision to match them and spent all of my savings until I had $0 in my bank. It took me 2 years of partying to do it. It was great fun. Now I wasn't outshining anyone. The thing is: they didn't love me for it - some loved me, some hated me and everyone else was in between. It didn't matter whether I had $0 in the bank or savings at all.
This weekend, whilst having a garage sale and getting to see all the various shades of lack walking down my driveway, I realised that I have been carrying on this pattern of not outshining or out-earning everyone else around here - even while I hid away at home working exclusively online. I've been hiding my light under a bushel, whatever that is.
I hadn't reversed that decision that I had made and forgiven myself for making it.
The ever loving universe has been showing me a different story. Over the last few years I have improved myself, learned, grown, so much so that if I was still in my corporate job I'd be a millionaire by now and if I had been welcoming money as an entrepreneur I'd probably be a billionaire by now!
The universe has shown me my worth through my lifestyle, through the houses that the universe has gifted me to rent, through various upgrades in my life. I would only allow certain upgrades to be given to me, only the upgrades that I could hide from my community. Upgrades to my living conditions, but not to my clothes. Upgrades to my working environment but not to my bank account.
You are the average of the people that you hang out with.
Byron Bay is falling apart, not being maintained, there is an overwhelming lack mentality here and it has been consuming everything, including my business!
It's time for me to leave, but as I have previously said, I'm not just leaving this house, I'm not just leaving Byron, I'm leaving all of the beliefs and energies that have had me holding money away from myself since I have lived here.
I don't regret my time living here. Byron Bay was the supportive nurturing place that I needed to call home whilst I had a massive amount of self-healing to do. I have changed my life whilst living here. It will always feel like one of my world homes.
Now I'm ready for the money to go with it! It isn't just about the money, it's about doing what I do in a big way. It's about being able to reach and help many people. It's not possible when I won't accept the return energy back to myself: I know, I've tried long enough!
I'm ready to live large and super size my business.
Even if I hold on to "it's not safe to outshine those around me" patterns, I will still be around millionaires in my new place, so that gives me plenty of room for growth. But I don't intend on keeping those patterns, I'm leaving them behind in this house, in this town.
Not only is it safe for me to outshine my family, friends, partner and neighbours, it's also safe to outshine Tony Robbins and Oprah!
It's safe for you to outshine Oprah, too!
The best thing is that once I made this breakthrough, yesterday, I set a new grand goal. This morning I woke up just before the sun with a new and exciting business plan in my mind. I know exactly how I can achieve this goal now, and the best thing is, I already have everything I need within me and already prepared to be able to do it.
How have you been holding yourself back?
Who do you stay around to feel comfortable instead of stretching yourself?
Are you ready to set a new grand goal?
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