Best Life Tip #34 Ask your spiritual team for help and support in everything. For the last few years I've had this feeling that there is something that I need to figure out, some secret key that if I find out what it is and then action it I will get whatever I want. I've been going around in circles, paying mentors and teachers lots of money to be told what I already know and have tried already. Learning the secret keys that have worked for others but don't work for me and I realised that the searching for that key itself has been what has been holding the solution, MY solution, from me. The feeling that there is something that if I just find it and offer that then I'll get what I want - that feeling has stopped me from knowing that it's already within me. There is nothing outside of myself that I need to find, no magical key, nothing new that I need to offer. I am already enough. To put the cherry on top I had also been feeling guilty for not finding that secret key yet. A double block to what I wanted. So this weekend I meditated on it and was told to allow my spiritual team to give me what I want, to trust them and to trust myself. I am already enough, I already offer enough. Until now I have been holding what I want from me through the belief that I haven't found it yet and that there is something I need to figure out to get it. I was told to relax and be supported by my spiritual team. This feeling of relaxation wasn't so comfortable for me. It reminded me of my childhood when letting go and being cared for in this way came with a serve of resentment, guilt, violence and abuse. It's a self-worth augmenting loop that I have been through a few times and I guess I need to continue to go through many times more. This week's best life tip is to let go, allow your spiritual team to support you in everything. You have a team of spirits who work alongside your higher self for the good of the whole team, you are all interested in growing in the same areas and you are the only member of the team who is incarnated into a physical body right now, this means you have great support behind you. If you would like to know more about your specific spiritual team, consider an Ask Claire Reading and get to know them better. Release guilt from not having achieved something you think you should have by now: if you haven't already then you didn't need to already. Everything is always in perfection. Love what is. Make peace with what is.
by Claire Louise Hay
It's the new moon and solar eclipse today, this is huge energy and along with the 2 lunar full moon eclipses either side of it we are in a unique transformational period.
The first full moon eclipse on the 25th/26th April set us off on this transformation. The initial energy was in redirecting us to be aligned with our higher selves. This means that anything that isn't aligned with your higher self, anything that isn't on your life path, anything that you have been holding onto because of resistance to letting go, has been shown to you. This heralded big changes for many. It has been important to go along with these changes and not resist them. Go along with them for the ride, it will be worth it. Your higher self is always taking you in the right direction. Release resistance and allow those changes to be made in your life. This has been a time for releasing, for throwing things out, selling things, getting rid of things, habits or patterns that have old energy that is no longer aligned with you. Things might have broken in the last 2 weeks to force you to release them, often it's not the object itself but the energy that is connected with it previously. In other words, it's ok to just replace or upgrade these things - be sure to buy new though, you don't want to pick up anyone else's left over energies.
Today's new moon and solar eclipse asks us to set our intentions for our new life. This is not a time to set your sights low. Forget baby steps. Envision your life as the highest vision you see of yourself and know that you can live that NOW. Let go of expectations of waiting, of having to slowly achieve your goals, these limitations are placed on yourself by your own mind. Today is the perfect day to spend in meditation, visualising exactly what you want your life to be like. The energy around this solar eclipse is a little slow, in order to give us this time to refocus. This means that results won't be forthcoming right now, but in a few days you will see the results flow faster than ever into your life.
This month's full moon is also a lunar eclipse on the 24th/25th May. This is the end of this re-direction event in which the energies have been more powerful than the December 2012 shift. In fact this event is directly related to the 2012 shift. 2013 is a year of massive changes and we must be a part of that, allowing ourselves to be leaders and let the big changes flow through us first so that we can cascade it to the whole world. You might be being asked to step up and take a leadership role now, speaking out, standing in power, taking over something, putting something big into action instead of waiting for powers-that-were to do it, allowing great wealth (the wealth and therefore power needs to shift to courageous heart centred people so that it can be used to change the world dramatically). Until now many light workers have held the energy, and now it's time to step up and put the energy into action. This message is especially important for women. We are headed toward a balance that none of us have experienced in our lifetimes and we must be a part of the shift in order for this balance to come about. The final full moon eclipse in this series is the call to action. You've let go of what wasn't you. You've decided your highest vision for yourself. The full moon will provide everything you need to get going on that vision. Expect changes to happen very quickly. Let go of what you have or haven't done in the past, or what has worked or hasn't worked in the past for you. Your energy is different now, you will manifest different outcomes. The worlds energy is different too, supporting these changes. This means ease of transformation as long as you let go of the resistance to it, and holding onto the past.
It is a privilege to be living through this period of earth's story. We all chose to be here now to be a part of this.
Claire Louise Hay
Your Spiritual Mentor
Best Life Tip #33
Fear of lack is one of the worst feelings that we have, and most of us have that feeling regularly.
Fear of lack comes from a feeling that we need to do it all, it comes from a place of overwhelm and mistrust in the universe.
When faced with this fear of lack the majority of us try to DO something about it.
Haven't got enough love? Want a boyfriend? We go out and try to find one.
Haven't got enough money? Want more money? We try to DO things to get more money.
This never gets us what we want, because we are not working with our higher selves nor the universe when we try to do it ourselves from a place of bad feeling.
We do this until we throw our arms up in to the air and give up saying '
"This is too hard! I can't DO it!"
When we get to that point we are right, we can't DO it.
So what can we do? What is the solution when we feel this fear of lack?
Here are the 3 counter-intuitive steps that work every time if you stick to them.
1. Stop what you are doing and start to do something that makes you feel good.
Ignore what is scaring you and focus your attention on something that you really love instead.
Go for a walk in nature. Do some gardening. Do yoga. Paint a picture. Meditate. Have a swim.
Do whatever takes all of your attention and makes you feel good.
This step detaches you from the bad feeling that will block your progress every time.
2. Decide what you really want.
What is the outcome you'd really like? If a magic wand was waived and you could have everything exactly how you wanted it, what would that look like?
Most of us limit ourselves to imagining a struggle for what we want. What if you were to imagine everything magically falling into place for you with little effort.
This step opens you up to allowing the universe to give you what you want in the easiest way possible.
3. Wait patiently for the inspiration to come.
Keep doing steps 1 & 2 and wait patiently for the results to show or for the inspiration (the usual way it happens) to be planted directly into your mind by your higher self of the step you need to take to get there.
Don't rush it. Be patient. The more you can let go in this step the quicker it will come to you, but the more you try to let go to make it come quicker the slower it will come. Just let go and wait patiently. Trust the universe. Trust your higher self!
Let me know how these steps change your experience and let me know what you manifest with ease when you follow them!
I've been seeing eagles everywhere in the last few weeks!
Best Life Tip #32
You are the average of the people that you are around the most.
If you are the brightest, shiniest, richest, most ambitious, most motivated person in your posse, you need a new posse, one that will stretch you and keep you growing.
When you feel insecure about yourself, when you have self-doubt, it can feel much more comfortable to keep the top dog position, so that you are never stretched, but you will remain stagnant and stunt your growth. Life IS growth.
I realised that when I moved to Byron Bay, 10 years ago, I had a good amount of savings in the bank. I had quit my corporate job 2 years prior and had used some savings to fund myself whilst I did volunteer work for charities, but I still had plenty of money left. I had sold my (most favourite techno blue VW New Beetle) car in the UK because I could buy a new New Beetle for the same amount as it would cost me to ship my 2 year old car over to Australia. I had a plan! I was going to get my car and set up my business with my savings.
Then I arrived in Byron Bay. Coming from extreme abuse, moving to the other side of the world, what I wanted most was a new family, a new community. What I found when I arrived here was a loving, supportive, nurturing, spiritual community which was perfect for me. But as in everything in the world there was balance, there was the flip side, the drawbacks of this community. There was (and is) a lack consciousness here that seems to touch everyone in the community.
I wanted to fit in, so I couldn't get my new car because I would have been outshining my new community. Instead I made a conscious decision to match them and spent all of my savings until I had $0 in my bank. It took me 2 years of partying to do it. It was great fun. Now I wasn't outshining anyone. The thing is: they didn't love me for it - some loved me, some hated me and everyone else was in between. It didn't matter whether I had $0 in the bank or savings at all.
This weekend, whilst having a garage sale and getting to see all the various shades of lack walking down my driveway, I realised that I have been carrying on this pattern of not outshining or out-earning everyone else around here - even while I hid away at home working exclusively online. I've been hiding my light under a bushel, whatever that is.
I hadn't reversed that decision that I had made and forgiven myself for making it.
The ever loving universe has been showing me a different story. Over the last few years I have improved myself, learned, grown, so much so that if I was still in my corporate job I'd be a millionaire by now and if I had been welcoming money as an entrepreneur I'd probably be a billionaire by now!
The universe has shown me my worth through my lifestyle, through the houses that the universe has gifted me to rent, through various upgrades in my life. I would only allow certain upgrades to be given to me, only the upgrades that I could hide from my community. Upgrades to my living conditions, but not to my clothes. Upgrades to my working environment but not to my bank account.
You are the average of the people that you hang out with.
Byron Bay is falling apart, not being maintained, there is an overwhelming lack mentality here and it has been consuming everything, including my business!
It's time for me to leave, but as I have previously said, I'm not just leaving this house, I'm not just leaving Byron, I'm leaving all of the beliefs and energies that have had me holding money away from myself since I have lived here.
I don't regret my time living here. Byron Bay was the supportive nurturing place that I needed to call home whilst I had a massive amount of self-healing to do. I have changed my life whilst living here. It will always feel like one of my world homes.
Now I'm ready for the money to go with it! It isn't just about the money, it's about doing what I do in a big way. It's about being able to reach and help many people. It's not possible when I won't accept the return energy back to myself: I know, I've tried long enough!
I'm ready to live large and super charge my business.
Even if I hold on to "it's not safe to outshine those around me" patterns, I will still be around millionaires in my new place, so that gives me plenty of room for growth. But I don't intend on keeping those patterns, I'm leaving them behind in this house, in this town.
Not only is it safe for me to outshine my family, friends, partner and neighbours, it's also safe to outshine Tony Robbins and Oprah!
It's safe for you to outshine Oprah, too!
The best thing is that once I made this breakthrough, yesterday, I set a new grand goal. This morning I woke up just before the sun with a new and exciting business plan in my mind. I know exactly how I can achieve this goal now, and the best thing is, I already have everything I need within me and already prepared to be able to do it.
How have you been holding yourself back?
Who do you stay around to feel comfortable instead of stretching yourself?
Are you ready to set a new grand goal?
Best Life Tip #31
There is an art to receiving that takes practice to perfect.
On Christmas day we went to visit family and took a basket of gifts for them. Some people received their gifts graciously saying "Thank you" with a smile, it felt good to give to them. However, some received with a grimace saying "You shouldn't have" and made it quite clear how bad I was making them feel by giving them a gift. I agreed with them - I shouldn't have, I wish I hadn't given to them, there was no pleasure in making someone feel bad like that and I have no wish to do it again.
The universe is no different.
It wants to give everything to us.
Can we receive graciously?
When you receive something, a compliment, a gift, a prize, some charity, ... what do you say or think?
"Thank you ...
I really needed it (but I wouldn't allow myself to get it for myself)"
I'll use it for something important (and not for my frivolous self)"
I'll pay it forward (I won't keep it for myself)"
I'll help others with it (I don't deserve it but others do)"
You shouldn't have (I'm not worthy unless I return a gift)"
I'll do something for you in return (I am not worthy to just receive)"
What do you add to your thank you?
When anything is added to your thank you, you are taking the joy away from the giver and they will not continue to give when you make them feel bad for it.
And that includes the universe - it wants to give to us, it knows we are worthy, but it will not, can not give to us when we will not just accept it, allow it, with a simple "Thank you"
If you want to receive something from the universe then say "Thank you" for it before you even have it, don't justify it, don't want to give it away, know that you deserve it, that you are worthy and just say "Thank you" as you visualise receiving it.
The universe wants to GIVE to YOU
Will you ALLOW it?
Practice the art of receiving graciously and just say "Thank you" every time you receive anything from anyone.
Become aware of what you are thinking or saying around that thank you, are you adding something on to it?
Face the lack of self-worth that your add-on is showing you and release it.
You are worthy just for who you are: a magnificent child of the universe worthy of love, abundance and support.
No justifications required.
Best Life Tip #30
As women we are supposed to be divine receiving vessels: so how is it that we are all wearing superwoman capes and wearing ourselves out?
HERstory got lost somewhere along the way to HIStory.
The divine feminine was suppressed and we were all left wondering who we are and what our divinity actually IS as women.
As a gender we felt this rift on many levels, and it caused women to desire equal rights. But in a man's world governed by HIStory, those equal rights came at a cost.
"OK," said the men, "you can have it all, but only if you will be a man and a woman at the same time."
Not being the kind of people to shy away from a challenge we took it on, regardless of the fact that it's impossible to be everything at once.
First we all stitched our superwomen outfits, with just the right amount of bling to make it pretty, then we hauled the weight of the world on our shoulders.
We could do it all - because we wanted it all!
It didn't take us long to wear out. Giving, giving and then giving some more, and hardly stopping to receive a thing: it wears us out, it's not sustainable.
There is no rule book. HERstory has been lost. We have no role models. There are no examples. Because HERstory has been lost (or was it destroyed?) we're having to make it up as we go along. This isn't a bad thing, it means that we can create it as we want it afresh.
NOW is our time to decide what we really want as women.
I see many of my fellow entrepreneurial women in the same boat, we are all figuring this out as we go along. Together we will not only define who we want to be, how we want to BE (not DO!) in the world, and what we are prepared to give for it and what we aren't prepared to give for it; we will figure it out whilst living it.
It's time to take off our superwomen capes ladies!
I took mine off yesterday and today I feel like a new woman.
We are moving house in 13 days. I was not only trying to clean the old house, pack and organise everything that needed organising whilst being the main breadwinner in our household - I was also trying to manifest the extra money we needed for the house deposit. Manifesting an extra $3,200 + money for moving this week, whilst scrubbing the cupboards out with bicarb of soda instead of being sat at my desk - it's just not going to happen.
Even if I sat at my desk instead of having my head in cupboards, it's just not going to happen and you know why? Because I don't need to take responsibility for everything: I am not superwoman and I don't need to be.
My ego could justify wearing that superwoman cape as follows:
~ I am the main breadwinner, I need to do it.
~ My partner is disabled, he can't do so much of the physical moving and cleaning
~ My partner is starting out as an entrepreneur and it's my duty to carry him
But my soul said this:
~ You don't have enough self-worth to let anyone give to you
~ Everything is not your responsibility
~ Let go
So I listened to my soul, because my ego is exhausting.
My soul reminded me that my ex-husband wasn't disabled and I was wearing my superwoman cape then. His idea of cleaning was to put everything into tidy piles, instead of in the bin or away where they should be, that was all the excuse that my ego needed to do it all, as well as to equal his income (so as to feel worthy) and to carry responsibility for everything on my shoulders.
Take a look in the mirror, do you see that cape that is on your back?
Enough. It's me, not them. The cape is not in a tidy pile for me to pick up later, it's in the bin.
I've released responsibility and control (this layer of it anyway) and I will receive!
So ladies, and I know from your response in the last weeks that so many of you are learning about receiving alongside me, first you must take off your superwoman cape. It was holding me back and it's holding you back, too.
Best Life Tip #29
Many of us, especially women, do not know how to receive from the universe or from the universe through other people.
We cut ourselves off from source, which IS abundance, by not being able to fully receive that abundance that is source.
This is something that I have personally struggled with all of my life. I have had so much pain connected with receiving, or rather, not receiving. It has been a personal mission of mine to uncover the source of this issue and release it within myself and to help others do the same.
Here is a meditation that has helped me through this issue and has allowed me to start to receive all the good that the universe has to offer me. I hope that it helps you, too.
Find a comfortable place, either sitting or lying down. Maybe light a candle, or burn your favourite essential oil.
Close your eyes and take 3 deep breaths.
Say each of these sentences in turn on every out breath, fully feeling each word contained within. Feel your body's response to the words, feel for any constriction or tension.
"The universe gives me everything that I want"
"I allow myself to receive it all"
"I am honoured. Thank you"
As you repeat these sentences you will begin to gain a greater understanding of what it means for the universe to GIVE, without trade, without barter, without justification, just giving. You will start to feel what it means to RECEIVE when something is given freely by another.
Feel any constriction in your breath as you say these words. Many of us are holding on to emotional pain connected with receiving - especially women.
For me it felt like a constriction of my chest, making my in-breath difficult, like the feeling of grief has on your chest. I felt the same constriction in my throat, again, of grief that was unexpressed.
As you feel whatever emotional pain you find, allow it to come out in any way you want it to, cry, cough, sigh,... As you allow it to come out name it "All of this pain, grief, fear, sadness, is being released now"
Visualise a bright white light of joy coming into your body with every in breath, and the pain being released from your body in the out breath.
Continue to either say the mantra out loud or just in your mind.
Feel the peace and joy contained within those words.
You are a divine child of the universe and the universe has been trying to give you everything that you have ever wanted. It's your time to receive, to allow yourself to accept your divinity, to allow the universe to honour you.
Use this mantra whenever you feel fear, scarcity, lack, unworthy, etc. Allow the truth of it to override your minds lies.
Best Life Tip #28
You think you're doing the right thing by teaching your values to your children but let me explain why it causes issues that can debilitate them throughout their life.
This is for parents and for adults who don't understand why they sabotage themselves throughout their lives, so that we can break the chain of pain and realise who we really are.
Our personal values come from our spirit, they come directly from our soul.
Every single child born, no matter where they are in the world has the same values of connection with others, play and learning. That's because those values come from their soul.
Our values change throughout our life, because there are stages of life that require a change in values for us to continue growing.
In an ideal world our values would look something like this:
* the age groupings are general
0 - 19 Connection, Play, Learning
20 - 30 Connection, Play, Learning, Trying many things out, Finding myself
30 - 40 Connection, Play, Learning, Finding my tribe or creating a family
40 - 110 Connection, Play, Learning, Sharing my gifts, Being of service (work)
When adults have children, they have different values than their children should - yet most try to teach their children their values.
When a parent tries to teach their values to the child, values of sharing their gifts, of work, or worse still skewed values taught by others of hard work, independance, competition, etc.
At best they are trying to give their child a head start, teaching them how to be a 40 year old instead of how to be a child.
At worst, they are teaching their child that their values are wrong, which means that who they are is wrong. That they have no worth, which means that their worthiness is only in what they do instead of who they are.
This leads to a life of trying to justify and prove their worth through doing things, through work before they even know what they are here to give!
It leads to a life of always feeling not good enough, that the inner knowing that you had and have is wrong, that you are lacking.
It leads to a life of knowing you are worthless, believing in lack, and not trusting yourself.
The lucky ones amongst us have a breakdown or breakthrough at some point in this misery.
This leads to a spiritual awakening and finds us questioning everything we were led to believe.
When this awakening happens what we really need to do is to regress to our childhood values and live them again.
By returning to connection, play and learning we lay the foundations of who we are, being happy with who we are.
Then they will feel the need to find themselves, and live the 20's that they missed, trying many things, finding what is aligned with them and what isn't.
Then they will naturally share their gifts with the world, because when you are truly yourself and aligned with your spirit, there is nothing else you can do!
Do you still value yourself for your work instead of who you are?
Symptoms can be:
Talking about your work to loved ones.
Getting busy doing something when other's are around.
Feeling guilty when you are not working.
Wanting to give more than receive.
Finding it hard to switch off.
Praising your children for what they do and not who they are.
Feeling the need to motivate your children to do things.
Many adults are still trying to please their inner parent (the parent inside of you that takes over parenting yourself in the exact same way your parents did) not realising that those values were never your own in the first place. Then they will naturally do the same thing with their own children.
This has led to the majority of this planets population being lost, not knowing who they are, what they are here for, and constantly feeling bad.
Parents, trust your children, allow them to find their own values that are right for them.
Adults, set yourself free: If you didn't follow the ideal path in life, choose it now, allow yourself to let go and start again, this time with awareness, you will find your life purpose and have plenty of fun along the way.
Best Life Tip #28
Breakdown or breakthrough: they both lead to the same place.
There comes a point in everyone's life when we can not continue doing the same things, achieving the same results and lacking the results that we really want.
Once that limit is reached, when the drawbacks of what you are experiencing far out number the benefits, change must happen.
Some people numb themselves to their discontentment, with alcohol, drugs, food, or other destructive patterns. The brave amongst us choose to face this discontent and either breakdown or breakthrough.
Breakthrough is the more empowering choice of the two, but they both actually lead to the same outcome.
A breakdown occurs when you have no more to give, when you have tried everything, when you have struggled and when you cannot find an answer or a way out. Breaking down is saying enough is enough I will not carry on along this path, it's a form of surrender. Surrender leads to a spiritual experience. When you surrender your higher self and your spiritual team can get involved in order to help you and show you the way out of your chains. A breakdown leads to a breakthrough.
A breakthrough occurs when you are so discontented that you actively seek a solution. It comes from a place of knowing that you are supported by your higher self and your spiritual team. It can come from a place of trusting someone else to help you through the breakthrough process. The breakthrough is the more empowered choice because when you actively seek solutions from a place of high energy, you will find those solutions, your higher self and your spiritual team will get involved in order to show you the way out of your discontent.
Both a breakdown and a breakthrough lead to a spiritual awakening and therefore to solutions. However, both have their pitfalls. You could judge yourself for your breakdown and block the solution from finding you. You could become attached to one truth that you find in a breakthrough and miss that there are deeper truths to be found in order to keep moving forward and growing in life.
It's important to know that whether you choose to breakdown or to breakthrough you are hearing the calling of your higher self and all is in perfection.
Trust your choice.
Best Life Tip #27
Empower yourself to do the best for yourself and for everyone else!
When you make a decision in life, that you want more, more love, more money, more fulfilment, more life,... You need to stand firm on that decision and persist with it. The universe loves to give us tests, to see if we are really sure that we want what we say we want.
These tests can sometimes feel like we have failed, but only if we don't rise up to the challenge and let it motivate us to be certain and persist with our goal!
A few weeks ago I made a decision to stop playing small. To stop giving my short, cheap readings that only help people in a small way that is of little value to them. I decided to focus only on helping those who are truly ready for big change in their life and to help them in a big way that is very valuable to them.
At first this decision was scary! I was cutting off the money that had been paying for our rent, our bills and our food. But I knew that I needed to step up in faith and I knew that everything would be OK.
The service I had been giving to the many was not delivering the amazing results that I was getting with the few customers who were being mentored by me, and who were having full breakthrough sessions with me. Whats more I was exhausting myself having to do hundreds of these short cheap sessions every week to even make enough money to live off.
It was time to stop offering the service that was beneath me, that was not worthy of my customers and invite my customers to join me in taking this step up for themselves too.
Then came the tests!
I was approached by a potential new customer, who wanted some quick answers, who didn't want the full help that I offer, and she wondered would I be able to give her a short cheap session. I told her no, I explained I no longer work in that way preferring to give a full useful service to my customers.
I passed the test. I was not only saying no for myself but for her too. I deserve more. She deserves more. My gift is worth more and can be used for much more than that to deliver far more value than that.
A barrage of abuse came back, people don't like hearing no, it causes them to emotionally react. But it was easy for me to let it go.
The same day I had another potential customer contact me to say that not everyone can afford the prices of my services. I am glad of that, if everyone could afford my services then I'd really have a problem on my hands, there is only 1 of me and there are billions of people out there who need the help that I offer! I can help billions of people with my books and pre-recorded programs, but not with my one on one time. I stood firm in my conviction that what I was doing is right, right for me, right for my work, and right for the world.
There is a delicate balance to find in every area of our lives.
To balance your needs and desires with other's needs and desires is important.
When you say yes to everyone's requests of you, you are not only in effect saying no to yourself, your own needs and desires, you are also saying no to their best interests too.
Incidentally, while we are on the subject, I see plenty of people who believe that they can gain respect from others by just giving as much as they can, by always saying yes, but they never gain respect until they first respect themselves. Nobody respects a doormat.
Everybody has equal value. Everybody's needs and desires are important.
However, your needs and desires need to be your priority.
This isn't selfish. When you are happy you are aligned with your higher self, when you are aligned with your higher self you are delivering the most value to the rest of the world: you are sharing more when you are happiest in yourself.
When you look at life from this higher perspective you will see that saying no is not only saying yes to yourself, but also saying yes to everyone else and life itself.
How can you prioritise yourself so that you can share more with the world?
Start with baby steps, allow yourself something you want, allow yourself to say no to others requests of you that you know will make you feel resentful or bad in some way about the level of help that you would give them.
Empower yourself to do the best for yourself and for everyone else!